My boyfriend who is 34 yo was abandoned by his mother when he was 4. We have had a very long relationship and I love him very much. Now I'm older and I'm starting to realize that his abandonment is affecting our relationship a big deal. He was raised by his father only, and I know that usually mothers are the most nurturing and who provide compassion and sentiments to a child, he never had that, so feelings to him are not important, he can not understand when I'm hurt, he doesn't how his behavior hurts me. My big issues are the he has a lot of female friends, it bothers me because he talks to them and does a lot of texting with them. He hardly has any male friends, so it makes feel that because he didn't have a mother, he always wants to be around women, I fee like he feels safe, he wants women's attention, he needs to be liked by women, that's my thinking. Years ago he also wanted to have a 3 person relationship with me and another girl. I tell him how I feel about it and he thinks it's my problem, that I am insecure that's all. I believe any woman would have the same issues I have if the boyfriend would be talking to other women. He says they are only friends, but what can you possibly talk about or text all the time? He has other issues that I think are related to his mom leaving him, he has many addictions, to name some: video game addictions, porn addictions, shoe addictions, he is very extreme about everything. I want to understand him and help him but I don't know if I can or if I even should. He is very controlling, he gets mad and gets very mean with me when I bring up things that bother me (like the female friends). He says he is tired of me having issues all the time. He is very difficult to deal with. I don't don't know what to do. I even thought about leaving the relationship but I don't want to add to his abandonment issues even more, I have hope he can realize that he has a problem. I'm not an expert at this, but it seems to me like he does. Thank youHow do I deal with my boyfriends abandonment issues?
Abandonment issues...my eye!
He was raised by a man that forgot to teach him respect, honesty, sensitivity, empathy, self-control........and probably the difference between right and wrong.
Stop analyzing him or wanting to 'fix' him because you can't!
He's not boyfriend or husband material, move on to a man better suited for you.
The woman marrying this man will have a long difficult life filled with infidelity, abuse, addictions etc.How do I deal with my boyfriends abandonment issues?
And what does this have to do with Marriage %26amp; Divorce. Talk to you BF, we can't speak for him.
You can break up and move on...that's the beauty of dating...if you try someone on and they don't ';fit'; - you can move on!
He definitely has a problem and it is not your fault. He needs some major emotional counseling. I understand that you love him and don't want to add to his abandonment issues, but his problems are not your fault and he is responsible for how he handles a breakup with you, not you. Since he is so tired of you having ';issues all the time'; then it is time for you to move on. You don't need this hassle, and you have done all you can to help him. Think of you now. Good luck.
You have been putting up with a whole lotta bull and making excuses for his unacceptable behavior. He is NOT boyfriend material. You need to wake up and smell the coffee (er um I mean reality). I hope you find the courage to start thinking about yourself and your happiness and your future and stop worrying about someone who will never change - he's making you feel guilty for his rude, inconsiderate mean behavior. . .
at some point you need to stop worrying about him and his issues and worry about yourself and being happy.I have been here and left the relationship and it didnt hurt him at all,he moved on to someone else who puts up with all his ****
He is not going to change and you will have to put up with his faults.So the rest of your life you will live in misery as you are not the one who can help him.He will do just fine without you as he has many female friends that will keep him busy.In other words RUN GIRL and don't look back.Love is too wonderful to waste it on someone who does not give back or doesn't care.
sweety, any man that is willing to bring someone else into your bedroom does not care about you!!!! any man that talks to other women more than he talks to you, does not care about you!!!
wake up and go get someone who love you!!! and not just part of you!!!
Oh, poor guy! what kind of monther would leave their son?! Well, you have to decide if you love him enough to be able to deal with his issues for the rest of your life. He might get better over time but never will be the same to someone who is from a healthy family. I married one so I know! No matter what sad background he had, it doesn't give him the right to mistreat you. Tell him that! If he doesn't change, most likely he will not - sadly, you need to walk when you are still young and attractive!!
Friday, August 20, 2010
I'm falling for my boyfriends stepbrother!!?
Here's the deal. My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. He tells me he loves me all the time but his actions just don't seem to go with that. He's disrespectful to me and everyone sees it. He goes off with his girl ';friends'; swimming and talks to girls all the time. He cheated on me once in the past and I let it slide. Now, his stepbrother moved in with us and since my BF is off doing other stuff all the time, we have a lot of time alone together and have gotten to know each other very well. He's someone I could see having a future with, but I am unsure how to go about this. We all live together and things are getting pretty intense. What should I do?I'm falling for my boyfriends stepbrother!!?
That's so unfair toward your boyfriend, and it or tell him! Better yet, both.I'm falling for my boyfriends stepbrother!!?
What you need to do is stop thinking of yourself and only your desires. i think that there are to many fish in the sea, to be coming between family, even if it is step family. That is just crossing a line that you don't cross. If you have all these problems with your boyfriend, then possibly you should deal with that, especially before moving on and doing that with his step brother. just because he doesn't treat you the way you'd like, doesn't justify what you are doing behinde his back. YOu infact are the one who let his ways slide, so you really only have yourself to blame. YOu won't fix anything by going for the step brother, and you will be destroying their relationship. Is it that worth it to you, cause chances are you will not always be in either one of their lives, so why would you do something that could ruin their family bond. Sounds VERY selfish and I think you need to deal with your insecurities and learn how to respect yourself before o=you are in a relationship.
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Follow your heart, you only live once. But most importantly be honest with everyone.
tell him how you feel and if you have more feeling for the other one then go for it dont stay in something ur not happy in and hurt him 2 cause he thinks you feel da same way
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Move out and get away from both of them. If you stay there only drama will happen, and eventually everyone will know everything. There is no happy ending to your story. Falling in love with best friends or family members is a relationship killer especially if you all live together.
That's so unfair toward your boyfriend, and it or tell him! Better yet, both.I'm falling for my boyfriends stepbrother!!?
What you need to do is stop thinking of yourself and only your desires. i think that there are to many fish in the sea, to be coming between family, even if it is step family. That is just crossing a line that you don't cross. If you have all these problems with your boyfriend, then possibly you should deal with that, especially before moving on and doing that with his step brother. just because he doesn't treat you the way you'd like, doesn't justify what you are doing behinde his back. YOu infact are the one who let his ways slide, so you really only have yourself to blame. YOu won't fix anything by going for the step brother, and you will be destroying their relationship. Is it that worth it to you, cause chances are you will not always be in either one of their lives, so why would you do something that could ruin their family bond. Sounds VERY selfish and I think you need to deal with your insecurities and learn how to respect yourself before o=you are in a relationship.
hahhahhaha
Follow your heart, you only live once. But most importantly be honest with everyone.
tell him how you feel and if you have more feeling for the other one then go for it dont stay in something ur not happy in and hurt him 2 cause he thinks you feel da same way
!!!!!!!!!]
Move out and get away from both of them. If you stay there only drama will happen, and eventually everyone will know everything. There is no happy ending to your story. Falling in love with best friends or family members is a relationship killer especially if you all live together.
How do I deal with my boyfriends crazy mom?!?
Long story short. Me and my boyfriend started dating 02-25-2009 and because of our work schedules I used to stay pretty much every night at his house (from day 1). Me and him have talked about it that's how we both see it. Its a 2 story house the bottom half his mom had redone and they called it his apartment so we both thought that she wouldn't have an issue with it. Turns out she did and she started hating me. Anyway, August of 2009 I found out I was pregnant. I was in between jobs at the time and was working on starting college. His mom told me that if I didn't have an abortion my boyfriend was going to lose the house (which he loved) and she was going to move away and never speak to him again. So I had the abortion and I shouldn't but I felt like he deserved to keep the house. Ever since then she has been a total b*tch non stop. She sold the house ANYWAY and continued to call me a whore, b*tch, etc. My boyfriend has stood up for me a lot but it still bothers me. I don't feel like I made the right decision about the abortion and all of this drama is only making it worse. My whole family disowned me over it and now I still have to deal with her too. Its just not right. I don't want to hate her but I can't help but feel like I do. I've never felt like this towards someone and idk how to handle it. This morning my boyfriend asked me to find a number in his phone and i saw a new girls number in there. I asked about it and apparently now his mom is giving his number out to past girls he has slept with, I asked him to talk to her about interfering with us and he said he would and I do trust him completely (this girl lives like 12 hours away) but I just feel like she should have quit by now. What do I do?
No rude comments about the abortion, you will be reported if you do. Thanks.How do I deal with my boyfriends crazy mom?!?
It's sad that you felt you had to go through that. Just for future reference the way you handle your pregnancy is your choice, don't ever let anyone put your back up against the wall to decide! You family shouldn't hold this against you, by not speaking to you that is horrible as well! What's done is done, and now you are moving on with your life. You are a grown woman and his mother has no right to call you those names! I don't know if she has said them too your face, however if she has I would throw it right back at her! It's nice your BF stands by you, but why are the other girls numbers saved in his phone if his mother is giving his number out? If a girl from his past calls him that he slept with and tells him his mother gave out the number he should tell the girl that his mom is being a sneaky troublemaker and that he is in a relationship so please don't call anymore. He should also get his number changed! I wouldn't care who it was that gave the number out, if I have someone giving my number out to people I don't want to have it and they wont stop at my request then I would change my number and they wouldn't be allowed to have it! Then his mother would get the hint! If I were you I wouldn't go around his mother or allow her to be around you, and in the event that the two of you bumped head I would blast her the moment she decided to disrespect me! Don't worry to much about the abortion you made the choice and that is in your past! No one can judge but god, only he knows what's in your heart! I'm sure his mother is far from perfect! Learn how to give what you get and his mother will leave you alone! Don't let her ignorance consume so much of your thoughts and life! She's a B!t@H! She probably was born a B!t@H, and probably will die a B!t@H! That's how some mothers are and their isn't anything you can do to change her, all you can change is how you deal with her!
Good Luck!How do I deal with my boyfriends crazy mom?!?
I hope she isn't staying with the two of you because that will be a recipe for diaster!! Don't you hate MIL's uggh!
dont be reported me u cant tell me how to answer ur question
put your foot down...tell him ';me or your mom';. the problem with this world is that when people that are bat s*h*i*t crazy enter our lives we want to try to maintain a relationship with them because we feel like we would be hurting them if we stopped talking to them. F*U*C*K em! tell him to drop her like it's hot and if he doesn't want to do that, then you drop him. simple. quit thinking you can't live without somebody and look out for number 1 first (that's you)
No rude comments about the abortion, you will be reported if you do. Thanks.How do I deal with my boyfriends crazy mom?!?
It's sad that you felt you had to go through that. Just for future reference the way you handle your pregnancy is your choice, don't ever let anyone put your back up against the wall to decide! You family shouldn't hold this against you, by not speaking to you that is horrible as well! What's done is done, and now you are moving on with your life. You are a grown woman and his mother has no right to call you those names! I don't know if she has said them too your face, however if she has I would throw it right back at her! It's nice your BF stands by you, but why are the other girls numbers saved in his phone if his mother is giving his number out? If a girl from his past calls him that he slept with and tells him his mother gave out the number he should tell the girl that his mom is being a sneaky troublemaker and that he is in a relationship so please don't call anymore. He should also get his number changed! I wouldn't care who it was that gave the number out, if I have someone giving my number out to people I don't want to have it and they wont stop at my request then I would change my number and they wouldn't be allowed to have it! Then his mother would get the hint! If I were you I wouldn't go around his mother or allow her to be around you, and in the event that the two of you bumped head I would blast her the moment she decided to disrespect me! Don't worry to much about the abortion you made the choice and that is in your past! No one can judge but god, only he knows what's in your heart! I'm sure his mother is far from perfect! Learn how to give what you get and his mother will leave you alone! Don't let her ignorance consume so much of your thoughts and life! She's a B!t@H! She probably was born a B!t@H, and probably will die a B!t@H! That's how some mothers are and their isn't anything you can do to change her, all you can change is how you deal with her!
Good Luck!How do I deal with my boyfriends crazy mom?!?
I hope she isn't staying with the two of you because that will be a recipe for diaster!! Don't you hate MIL's uggh!
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dont be reported me u cant tell me how to answer ur question
put your foot down...tell him ';me or your mom';. the problem with this world is that when people that are bat s*h*i*t crazy enter our lives we want to try to maintain a relationship with them because we feel like we would be hurting them if we stopped talking to them. F*U*C*K em! tell him to drop her like it's hot and if he doesn't want to do that, then you drop him. simple. quit thinking you can't live without somebody and look out for number 1 first (that's you)
How to deal with my boyfriends previous hook ups?
Hey,i'm just after a bit of advice.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now,and overall we are both happy in the relationship. However, i seem to have a tough time dealing with girls that he has kissed or something has happened with prior to our relationship. See,i've had a couple of short term boyfriends and slept with around 5 boys before we got together. However,he was in a long term relationship with his ex for 4 years through school and college. I have no major issues with that. It's more just stuff that he has gotten up to at uni that bothered me. He's kissed 2 girls he lives with (one of which he cheated on me with,the other he cheated on his ex with) then theres been loads of other girls that he's been out and kissed or something more has happened with (not full blown sex). The girls that stuff has happened with have all been really pretty,so it makes me feel uncomfortable and i end up getting arsey with him which i dont like,and im sure he doesn't either. He recently mentioned that after we met on a night out and we were texting one another that he kissed another girl. Now i know that he was well within his right to do this,i just feel crap and it feels like he has cheated on me again. Im just frustrated with it all,its my problem not his but i just want some advice to help me overcome it. Me and my boyfriend have only really argued over the girl he kissed before we go out,its more of just a problem i keep from him.
Thanks for the advice guys :) xHow to deal with my boyfriends previous hook ups?
Just what is it you want to overcome? The fact that he is still messing around with other girls? Do you actually WANT to be O.K. with that? I don't get it...How to deal with my boyfriends previous hook ups?
if he cheated on you, you have every right in the relationship to dictate who he associates with, although i wouldn't recomend staying in a relationship w someone you cant trust.. sry just my advice
A string of incidents like that and you don't get a picture of what this guy is like? Do you think it will ever change?
You are not being respected and should do yourself a favor and move on.
heey(: x
ughh men. lol
i think you should have a biiiig talk with him about it
and if he argues and shizz,
dont put up with it !
xx
1) If he's cheated on you- why are you still with him???
2) His past is his past- you'll get over it in time hun.
3)If you don't want to leave him, sit down and talk to him. Start the conversation with '; It's not a big issue'; OR '; Please don't make this an argument'; tell him what your finding hard to deal with. If he's real boyfriend material. You guys wont argue and you'll sort stuff out.
Been with my partner for 8 years- there was tonnes of arguments and threats of breaking up in the first 2 years but now he is my best friend and the only way that will ever happen is if you talk. A boy can not be classed as a boyfriend unless you can talk to him right? That's what friends are for
He cheated on you AND other girls. Sounds to me that he sleeps around and cheats a lot.In my opinion once a cheater always a cheater and you deserve better then him.c would advise you to move on and date someone else who does not kiss /hook up with random girls.
PS. Its NOT your problem, its HIS! He should not hook up with other girls.You don't have to put up with his cheating on you.
I feel this is best answered by a great man. Silent Bob, do your thing.
Silent Bob: ';So there's me and Amy, and we're all inseparable, right? Just big time in love. And then four months down the road, the idiot gear kicks in, and I ask about the ex-boyfriend. Which, as we all know, is a really dumb move. But you know how it is: you don't wanna know, but you just have to, right? Stupid guy bullshit. So, anyway, she starts telling me about him - how they fell in love, and how they went out for a couple of years, and how they lived together, her mother likes me better, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah - and I'm okay. But then she drops the bomb on me, and the bomb is this: it seems that a couple of times, while they were going out, he brought some people to bed with them. M茅nage 脿 trois, I believe it's called. Now this just blows my mind, right? I mean, I am not used to this sort of thing. I mean, I was raised Catholic, for God's sake.
So I'm totally weirded out by this, right? And I just start blasting her. Like, I don't know how to deal with what I'm feeling, so I figure the best way is by calling her a slut, right? And tell her she was used. I'm... I'm out for blood. I really wanna hurt this girl. I'm like, ';What the **** is your problem?';, right? And she's just all calmly trying to tell me, like, it was that time and it was that place and she doesn't think she should apologize because she doesn't feel that she's done anything wrong. I'm like, ';Oh, really?'; That's when I look her straight in the eye, I tell her it's over. I walk. It was a mistake. I wasn't disgusted with her, I was afraid. At that moment, I felt small, like... like I'd lacked experience, like I'd never be on her level, like I'd never be enough for her or something like that, you know what I'm saying? But, what I did not get, she didn't care. She wasn't looking for that guy anymore. She was... she was looking for me, for the Bob. But, uh, by the time I figure this all out, it was too late, man. She moved on, and all I had to show for it was some foolish pride, which then gave way to regret. She was the girl, I know that now. But I pushed her away. So I've spent every day since then chasing Amy... so to speak.';
Have you heard of the word ';Self Respect'; ??? Wel, its time to practice that.
I can assure u he's gonna cheat on u again. It's ure call... do u wanna be with a cheater and a liar or do u wanna give ureself a much deserved break and a chance for a healthy relationship.
It doesnt matter how pretty or ugly those girls are, ure bf is a slut. If a slut is what u want, stay with him. But if what u want is a bf, then sweetheart, let me tell u, ure with the wrong guy.
And he lives with them and kisses them and cheats on u? Gosh! How much patience do u have? Patience is not always a good thing. Ure a good woman, go and find a good man.
Here's some advice - paragraphs.
Anywho, to answer your question:
I can see why you might be a little paranoid, but I don't think you have anything to worry about. He seems to be upfront with you, before he mentioned the girl he kissed, and he's obviously told you of other sexual encounters.
He's with you, not them. He sounds like he's honest, and it does sound like you're over-reacting a little.
Try to relax a bit, and TALK to him. Tell him it worries you or whatever. Don't get cagey and be aggressive, but talk it out. I'm sure he'll reassure you.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now,and overall we are both happy in the relationship. However, i seem to have a tough time dealing with girls that he has kissed or something has happened with prior to our relationship. See,i've had a couple of short term boyfriends and slept with around 5 boys before we got together. However,he was in a long term relationship with his ex for 4 years through school and college. I have no major issues with that. It's more just stuff that he has gotten up to at uni that bothered me. He's kissed 2 girls he lives with (one of which he cheated on me with,the other he cheated on his ex with) then theres been loads of other girls that he's been out and kissed or something more has happened with (not full blown sex). The girls that stuff has happened with have all been really pretty,so it makes me feel uncomfortable and i end up getting arsey with him which i dont like,and im sure he doesn't either. He recently mentioned that after we met on a night out and we were texting one another that he kissed another girl. Now i know that he was well within his right to do this,i just feel crap and it feels like he has cheated on me again. Im just frustrated with it all,its my problem not his but i just want some advice to help me overcome it. Me and my boyfriend have only really argued over the girl he kissed before we go out,its more of just a problem i keep from him.
Thanks for the advice guys :) xHow to deal with my boyfriends previous hook ups?
Just what is it you want to overcome? The fact that he is still messing around with other girls? Do you actually WANT to be O.K. with that? I don't get it...How to deal with my boyfriends previous hook ups?
if he cheated on you, you have every right in the relationship to dictate who he associates with, although i wouldn't recomend staying in a relationship w someone you cant trust.. sry just my advice
A string of incidents like that and you don't get a picture of what this guy is like? Do you think it will ever change?
You are not being respected and should do yourself a favor and move on.
heey(: x
ughh men. lol
i think you should have a biiiig talk with him about it
and if he argues and shizz,
dont put up with it !
xx
1) If he's cheated on you- why are you still with him???
2) His past is his past- you'll get over it in time hun.
3)If you don't want to leave him, sit down and talk to him. Start the conversation with '; It's not a big issue'; OR '; Please don't make this an argument'; tell him what your finding hard to deal with. If he's real boyfriend material. You guys wont argue and you'll sort stuff out.
Been with my partner for 8 years- there was tonnes of arguments and threats of breaking up in the first 2 years but now he is my best friend and the only way that will ever happen is if you talk. A boy can not be classed as a boyfriend unless you can talk to him right? That's what friends are for
He cheated on you AND other girls. Sounds to me that he sleeps around and cheats a lot.In my opinion once a cheater always a cheater and you deserve better then him.c would advise you to move on and date someone else who does not kiss /hook up with random girls.
PS. Its NOT your problem, its HIS! He should not hook up with other girls.You don't have to put up with his cheating on you.
I feel this is best answered by a great man. Silent Bob, do your thing.
Silent Bob: ';So there's me and Amy, and we're all inseparable, right? Just big time in love. And then four months down the road, the idiot gear kicks in, and I ask about the ex-boyfriend. Which, as we all know, is a really dumb move. But you know how it is: you don't wanna know, but you just have to, right? Stupid guy bullshit. So, anyway, she starts telling me about him - how they fell in love, and how they went out for a couple of years, and how they lived together, her mother likes me better, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah - and I'm okay. But then she drops the bomb on me, and the bomb is this: it seems that a couple of times, while they were going out, he brought some people to bed with them. M茅nage 脿 trois, I believe it's called. Now this just blows my mind, right? I mean, I am not used to this sort of thing. I mean, I was raised Catholic, for God's sake.
So I'm totally weirded out by this, right? And I just start blasting her. Like, I don't know how to deal with what I'm feeling, so I figure the best way is by calling her a slut, right? And tell her she was used. I'm... I'm out for blood. I really wanna hurt this girl. I'm like, ';What the **** is your problem?';, right? And she's just all calmly trying to tell me, like, it was that time and it was that place and she doesn't think she should apologize because she doesn't feel that she's done anything wrong. I'm like, ';Oh, really?'; That's when I look her straight in the eye, I tell her it's over. I walk. It was a mistake. I wasn't disgusted with her, I was afraid. At that moment, I felt small, like... like I'd lacked experience, like I'd never be on her level, like I'd never be enough for her or something like that, you know what I'm saying? But, what I did not get, she didn't care. She wasn't looking for that guy anymore. She was... she was looking for me, for the Bob. But, uh, by the time I figure this all out, it was too late, man. She moved on, and all I had to show for it was some foolish pride, which then gave way to regret. She was the girl, I know that now. But I pushed her away. So I've spent every day since then chasing Amy... so to speak.';
Have you heard of the word ';Self Respect'; ??? Wel, its time to practice that.
I can assure u he's gonna cheat on u again. It's ure call... do u wanna be with a cheater and a liar or do u wanna give ureself a much deserved break and a chance for a healthy relationship.
It doesnt matter how pretty or ugly those girls are, ure bf is a slut. If a slut is what u want, stay with him. But if what u want is a bf, then sweetheart, let me tell u, ure with the wrong guy.
And he lives with them and kisses them and cheats on u? Gosh! How much patience do u have? Patience is not always a good thing. Ure a good woman, go and find a good man.
Here's some advice - paragraphs.
Anywho, to answer your question:
I can see why you might be a little paranoid, but I don't think you have anything to worry about. He seems to be upfront with you, before he mentioned the girl he kissed, and he's obviously told you of other sexual encounters.
He's with you, not them. He sounds like he's honest, and it does sound like you're over-reacting a little.
Try to relax a bit, and TALK to him. Tell him it worries you or whatever. Don't get cagey and be aggressive, but talk it out. I'm sure he'll reassure you.
Girls:How many of you have military boyfriends/Boys: How many of you in the military ..?
Girls : How did you deal with the stress of your man going away for training and then going to the middle east, or elsewhere ? How do you keep the love alive ? What did you do your last night together before he went away ? And, how did you react when he told you he was planning on going into the military career track ?
Boys: When leaving your girl, how did you feel? How did you keep the love alive, and what did you do your last night before leaving ?
Im asking this, because I need help dealing. My boyfriend just told me that he is planning on going into the military. His training is 3 provinces over from mine (we live in Canada), and I'm in Uni. He won't be going though, until after Feb. (he promised not to leave before our 2year anniversary). So, can you please tell me your stories and help out ? Thanks in advance :)Girls:How many of you have military boyfriends/Boys: How many of you in the military ..?
I am dating a Marine.. And trust me hun, it is HARD. I live in the US %26amp; my boyfriends training was 3 months long, then he had another month of training after that, and now he's at his MOS school. When he told me he was going into the Marine Corps, I cried my eyes out. But he had warned me that he wanted to when we started dating, and I didn't believe him. Then he turned 17 and him and his parents signed the papers, and that's when it all got so so real to me. I'm 16 %26amp; he's 18. He left for boot camp in June, right after he graduated from high school and I cried for 2 days straight. In the USMC you can't make phone calls.. So I had to sit around and wait for his first letter. I didn't get it til 2 weeks after he left. It made me so so happy to get that letter, I even cried. But after getting his address I wrote a letter every single day. I supported him and was his motivation to keep going. We didn't have a specific way to ';keep the love going'; except in every letter we would tell each other how much we miss each other, can't wait to see one another again, and how much we love each other. The drill instructors tell the recruits to forget about their girlfriends and wives because they're back home cheating on them.. But I would remind him in almost every letter that I would never do that to him. And that I was home waiting for him to come back. After boot camp when he came home the love was still there. It was like we had just seen each other the day before.. Everything was the same. It was the most amazing feeling in the world. The night before he left for boot camp I stayed the night at his house and we just sat up talking allll night long. He hasn't been deployed yet.. He's still in his MOS school, but more than likely it will happen, and all I can do is just support him and let him know I'm here for him. It is an amazing thing these guys do.. And they don't need any extra stess. Just let your boyfriend know you'll back him up all the way.. And you'll be waiting for him.
Best of luck.Girls:How many of you have military boyfriends/Boys: How many of you in the military ..?
Im still young and not married so I cannot answer but the first person who answered this question is very sweet. I am so happy for her and her love is still between her and her fiance. I wish them the best ans she should get Best Answer.shared hosting web ftp hosting
Boys: When leaving your girl, how did you feel? How did you keep the love alive, and what did you do your last night before leaving ?
Im asking this, because I need help dealing. My boyfriend just told me that he is planning on going into the military. His training is 3 provinces over from mine (we live in Canada), and I'm in Uni. He won't be going though, until after Feb. (he promised not to leave before our 2year anniversary). So, can you please tell me your stories and help out ? Thanks in advance :)Girls:How many of you have military boyfriends/Boys: How many of you in the military ..?
I am dating a Marine.. And trust me hun, it is HARD. I live in the US %26amp; my boyfriends training was 3 months long, then he had another month of training after that, and now he's at his MOS school. When he told me he was going into the Marine Corps, I cried my eyes out. But he had warned me that he wanted to when we started dating, and I didn't believe him. Then he turned 17 and him and his parents signed the papers, and that's when it all got so so real to me. I'm 16 %26amp; he's 18. He left for boot camp in June, right after he graduated from high school and I cried for 2 days straight. In the USMC you can't make phone calls.. So I had to sit around and wait for his first letter. I didn't get it til 2 weeks after he left. It made me so so happy to get that letter, I even cried. But after getting his address I wrote a letter every single day. I supported him and was his motivation to keep going. We didn't have a specific way to ';keep the love going'; except in every letter we would tell each other how much we miss each other, can't wait to see one another again, and how much we love each other. The drill instructors tell the recruits to forget about their girlfriends and wives because they're back home cheating on them.. But I would remind him in almost every letter that I would never do that to him. And that I was home waiting for him to come back. After boot camp when he came home the love was still there. It was like we had just seen each other the day before.. Everything was the same. It was the most amazing feeling in the world. The night before he left for boot camp I stayed the night at his house and we just sat up talking allll night long. He hasn't been deployed yet.. He's still in his MOS school, but more than likely it will happen, and all I can do is just support him and let him know I'm here for him. It is an amazing thing these guys do.. And they don't need any extra stess. Just let your boyfriend know you'll back him up all the way.. And you'll be waiting for him.
Best of luck.Girls:How many of you have military boyfriends/Boys: How many of you in the military ..?
Im still young and not married so I cannot answer but the first person who answered this question is very sweet. I am so happy for her and her love is still between her and her fiance. I wish them the best ans she should get Best Answer.
How can i make my ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend's life miserable?
Okay, here's the deal...My boyfriend of three years just dumped me over a text message not even two weeks ago. he had been acting super sketchy like leaving the house early, ditching me on his lunch breaks, finding reasons to go out with his friends a lot, etc. Well, comes to find out he's already dating somebody else. i want to screw with their lives (not legally just make things kinda hard for them). what are a couple ';pranks'; that would be good to do?How can i make my ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend's life miserable?
Move on.How can i make my ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend's life miserable?
grow up. this is childish and immature. he's not worth it and ur giving him too much credit by caring enough to do this. it'll just make u look the loser ex-girlfriend who cant move on with her life. plus, how would u like it if u started dating a guy and there was a bitter ex who kept bothering you? she didnt do anything wrong, from what uve written. seriously, ull just look pathetic. start dating a new guy. living well is the best revenge
What did she ever do to you? Do you even know her? She might have even been unaware he had a girlfriend when they met.
tell her your old bf has genetile warts
Move on.How can i make my ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend's life miserable?
grow up. this is childish and immature. he's not worth it and ur giving him too much credit by caring enough to do this. it'll just make u look the loser ex-girlfriend who cant move on with her life. plus, how would u like it if u started dating a guy and there was a bitter ex who kept bothering you? she didnt do anything wrong, from what uve written. seriously, ull just look pathetic. start dating a new guy. living well is the best revenge
What did she ever do to you? Do you even know her? She might have even been unaware he had a girlfriend when they met.
tell her your old bf has genetile warts
How can i deal with my boyfriend's epilepsy?
My name was diagnosted with epilepsy about 3 yrs ago after a fall he took while playing basketball. He fell and hit his head on the court. He has been having seizures ever since. I receiving found out he had epilepsy when he had a seizure at my house. When he has them, im scared to death. He takes medication but it doesnt seem to work. He has them while he sleeps and thats the only time. Any tips on how i can deal with it?How can i deal with my boyfriend's epilepsy?
You Can Help Your boyfriend to Feel Less Alone
If someone under your care has epilepsy, it is important that you talk to that person about how she or he is feeling. Many people with epilepsy worry about having a seizure in public and may stay at home more often than they would like. You can help loved ones with epilepsy feel less isolated by reaching out to them and letting them know that they don鈥檛 have to deal with their epilepsy all by themselves.
You Can Help Make Living with Epilepsy More Manageable for Your boyfriend:
Epilepsy can affect your loved one鈥檚 everyday life. Simple things such as going to work or driving a car may not be possible. Your loved one may be constantly worried that another seizure will come on at any time.
There are other things you can do that may help make living with epilepsy more manageable for your loved one.
Encourage that person to join an epilepsy support group. It may help your loved one to hear from others who are going through similar experiences with epilepsy and who understand how your loved one is feeling
Help all members of the family learn more about epilepsy. This will enable the family to provide the support your loved one needs
If the person attends school, discuss this with the doctor as well as the teacher. The more informed the school is about epilepsy, the better prepared it will be to respond to the student's needs
If the person is employed, discuss the best way to approach this situation in the workplace, given the specific circumstances of your loved one's job
Make sure he or she wears a medical alert necklace or bracelet. These items provide important information that can help others know what to do and who to call if the person is experiencing a seizure
Encourage the use of public transportation. Just because epilepsy prevents some people from being able to drive shouldn't mean they have to sit at home. Many areas have convenient, affordable public transportation options that can help your loved one get out there and get on with everyday life
There are many other things you can do to make it easier for your loved one to live with epilepsy. Talk to your loved one and to the doctor to find out additional ways you may be able to help.
You Can Help Your Friend or Loved One Find the Right Treatment
You may be the key to helping those under your care get the right treatment that may finally help get their epilepsy under control. You may want to think about speaking directly with a health care professional who understands your situation and who can give you advice on treatment and ongoing care.
You can help your loved ones get the treatment that is right for them. You can also encourage them to take their medication in the way their doctor has prescribed.
LYRICA is an effective medication that helps reduce seizures in people who are taking other drugs to treat this condition. You may want to ask the doctor if LYRICA could be right for your loved one.
Where to Find Support
There are Places to Turn for Help
You should know that there is support out there. The following Web sites offer helpful information and support tools.
These Web sites are neither owned nor controlled by Pfizer. Pfizer is not responsible for the content or services on these sites.
National Family Caregivers Association
http://www.nfcacares.org
Epilepsy.com
http://www.epilepsy.com
Epilepsy Foundation of America
http://www.efa.orgHow can i deal with my boyfriend's epilepsy?
I have Epilepsy with sudden death seizures,actually he doesn't have Epilepsy-because epilepsy is when you only have seizures when you are awake.I know-I have had these seizures for over 30 years.Your boyfriend is a Narcoleptic -meaning he only has seizures while he sleeps.If he just recently started having seizures,what kind of medicine is he on? Maybe it is the wrong kind of medicine,my medicine has changed 3 times already.Also,do not be afraid of him,that is the worst thing that you can do-it sends a message to him,that you don't care enough know,trust me-it happened to me.Just stay with him,and make sure he doesn't bang his head on anything,and let the seizure run it's course.Also,does your boyfriend have a neurologists? If not,he should,he can get more help from a neurologist than any other doctor.
Really, the only thing YOU can do to deal with it is be there for him and don't let him see your fear or sadness. He needs you as a support as this is probably very embarassing to him. If you're around him when he's seizing, just keep him safe; remove objects from around him that can hurt him and keep yourself safe by staying back as there's nothing you can do for him physically at this point. And, remember to remind him to avoid playing video games and flashing lights or anything which can trigger a seizure. As for the medication not working, he may want to talk to his MD about increasing his current dose or trying something else if they're occurring frequently.
It's not easy... my ex-husband has seizures that were basically uncontrolled by medicine, and also had them primarily in his sleep. The best thing I can say is to stay calm while its happening, and while it looks painful and like they might die, he really won't and he is not aware at all about what's going on. It looks much scarier than it is. Keep that in mind as you witness the event. Don't treat him differently.
He should try to take his medication about 3 hrs before he goes to sleep (I am not a dr, just talking from personal experience - please ask a dr!!!) so that an adequate amount is in the bloodstream for when he goes to bed. Sometimes they think if they take it right before bed, they are ';covered.'; Also, have him ask his Dr about newer meds, like Lamictal that have worked wonders with my ex.
I can't tell you don't be scared, they are scary to watch, but get educated about basically leaving them alone (remove sharp objects, don't stick anything into the mouth, loosen clothing that may be around the neck and if you can, nudge him to his side so the blood that comes out of his mouth~usually from biting his tongue~drains out the side) Always tell him he just had a seizure. You can pat his back, and just say something like ';baby, it'll be okay'; while he is seizing... it really helped me, I guess threw me into caregiver mode which took the focus off of my fears.
Again, look at the situation differently~ he won't die, he doesn't feel a thing, he won't remember it, and it only lasts a very short time (seems like eternity to you, but most don't even last 2 minutes).
He'll be okay.
Go to his dr. or try another one...some kind of seizures are best helped with a ';cocktail'; of meds...
Note: Please don't feel like you have to stay with him in the event you don't like him anymore (not necessarily because of the seizures.) The best thing is to treat him like everyone else. He is a regular person!
Support him....and tell him that he has seizures in his sleep...it's important that his doctors know this.
You Can Help Your boyfriend to Feel Less Alone
If someone under your care has epilepsy, it is important that you talk to that person about how she or he is feeling. Many people with epilepsy worry about having a seizure in public and may stay at home more often than they would like. You can help loved ones with epilepsy feel less isolated by reaching out to them and letting them know that they don鈥檛 have to deal with their epilepsy all by themselves.
You Can Help Make Living with Epilepsy More Manageable for Your boyfriend:
Epilepsy can affect your loved one鈥檚 everyday life. Simple things such as going to work or driving a car may not be possible. Your loved one may be constantly worried that another seizure will come on at any time.
There are other things you can do that may help make living with epilepsy more manageable for your loved one.
Encourage that person to join an epilepsy support group. It may help your loved one to hear from others who are going through similar experiences with epilepsy and who understand how your loved one is feeling
Help all members of the family learn more about epilepsy. This will enable the family to provide the support your loved one needs
If the person attends school, discuss this with the doctor as well as the teacher. The more informed the school is about epilepsy, the better prepared it will be to respond to the student's needs
If the person is employed, discuss the best way to approach this situation in the workplace, given the specific circumstances of your loved one's job
Make sure he or she wears a medical alert necklace or bracelet. These items provide important information that can help others know what to do and who to call if the person is experiencing a seizure
Encourage the use of public transportation. Just because epilepsy prevents some people from being able to drive shouldn't mean they have to sit at home. Many areas have convenient, affordable public transportation options that can help your loved one get out there and get on with everyday life
There are many other things you can do to make it easier for your loved one to live with epilepsy. Talk to your loved one and to the doctor to find out additional ways you may be able to help.
You Can Help Your Friend or Loved One Find the Right Treatment
You may be the key to helping those under your care get the right treatment that may finally help get their epilepsy under control. You may want to think about speaking directly with a health care professional who understands your situation and who can give you advice on treatment and ongoing care.
You can help your loved ones get the treatment that is right for them. You can also encourage them to take their medication in the way their doctor has prescribed.
LYRICA is an effective medication that helps reduce seizures in people who are taking other drugs to treat this condition. You may want to ask the doctor if LYRICA could be right for your loved one.
Where to Find Support
There are Places to Turn for Help
You should know that there is support out there. The following Web sites offer helpful information and support tools.
These Web sites are neither owned nor controlled by Pfizer. Pfizer is not responsible for the content or services on these sites.
National Family Caregivers Association
http://www.nfcacares.org
Epilepsy.com
http://www.epilepsy.com
Epilepsy Foundation of America
http://www.efa.orgHow can i deal with my boyfriend's epilepsy?
I have Epilepsy with sudden death seizures,actually he doesn't have Epilepsy-because epilepsy is when you only have seizures when you are awake.I know-I have had these seizures for over 30 years.Your boyfriend is a Narcoleptic -meaning he only has seizures while he sleeps.If he just recently started having seizures,what kind of medicine is he on? Maybe it is the wrong kind of medicine,my medicine has changed 3 times already.Also,do not be afraid of him,that is the worst thing that you can do-it sends a message to him,that you don't care enough know,trust me-it happened to me.Just stay with him,and make sure he doesn't bang his head on anything,and let the seizure run it's course.Also,does your boyfriend have a neurologists? If not,he should,he can get more help from a neurologist than any other doctor.
Really, the only thing YOU can do to deal with it is be there for him and don't let him see your fear or sadness. He needs you as a support as this is probably very embarassing to him. If you're around him when he's seizing, just keep him safe; remove objects from around him that can hurt him and keep yourself safe by staying back as there's nothing you can do for him physically at this point. And, remember to remind him to avoid playing video games and flashing lights or anything which can trigger a seizure. As for the medication not working, he may want to talk to his MD about increasing his current dose or trying something else if they're occurring frequently.
It's not easy... my ex-husband has seizures that were basically uncontrolled by medicine, and also had them primarily in his sleep. The best thing I can say is to stay calm while its happening, and while it looks painful and like they might die, he really won't and he is not aware at all about what's going on. It looks much scarier than it is. Keep that in mind as you witness the event. Don't treat him differently.
He should try to take his medication about 3 hrs before he goes to sleep (I am not a dr, just talking from personal experience - please ask a dr!!!) so that an adequate amount is in the bloodstream for when he goes to bed. Sometimes they think if they take it right before bed, they are ';covered.'; Also, have him ask his Dr about newer meds, like Lamictal that have worked wonders with my ex.
I can't tell you don't be scared, they are scary to watch, but get educated about basically leaving them alone (remove sharp objects, don't stick anything into the mouth, loosen clothing that may be around the neck and if you can, nudge him to his side so the blood that comes out of his mouth~usually from biting his tongue~drains out the side) Always tell him he just had a seizure. You can pat his back, and just say something like ';baby, it'll be okay'; while he is seizing... it really helped me, I guess threw me into caregiver mode which took the focus off of my fears.
Again, look at the situation differently~ he won't die, he doesn't feel a thing, he won't remember it, and it only lasts a very short time (seems like eternity to you, but most don't even last 2 minutes).
He'll be okay.
Go to his dr. or try another one...some kind of seizures are best helped with a ';cocktail'; of meds...
Note: Please don't feel like you have to stay with him in the event you don't like him anymore (not necessarily because of the seizures.) The best thing is to treat him like everyone else. He is a regular person!
Support him....and tell him that he has seizures in his sleep...it's important that his doctors know this.
I need advice on how to deal with my boyfriends family!!?
i hav been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 yrs and the whjole time his family have never made me feel welcome whenever i am over or whenever i go somewhere with them, his sister hates me and bitches about me all the time to her mum and my boyfriend doesnt know what to do about it. i hav tried talking to his mum to get to know her better but the nice-ness only lasts a little bit. his sister always ignores me and i feel very uncomfortable around all of them. my boy knows this and doesnt know what to do either. We recently broke up and are currently in the middle of putting things back together which is double as stressful and produces many unknown feelings to me and i sometimes get severly depressed about it all coz i just want everything to b ok %26amp; i dont know how to fix it. I dont know wether anti-depressants will help me. So basically i need advice on my boyfriends family, my relationship and anti-depressants haha what a mess. please help so confused!I need advice on how to deal with my boyfriends family!!?
If you really care for him and your relationship, work on it, but be aware that there may never be peace in that family... some families are just like that.
As far as the family, forget them. Seems like you've made the effort, now it is up to them. Sometimes it's more excitement for a bitter family to have someone to hate then to be open, accepting, and loving. I personally wouldn't put anymore effort into it...It would hurt, but I don't believe in putting myself out there for others to hurt me.
Antidepressants are wonderful drugs for those that need them. I don't know how old you are, but there is clinical depression and situational depression. If this is situational, then you need to break loose from the situation totally. Don't put yourself through it, it's not worth it! If it's clinical, you need to see a doc and let him/her deside.I need advice on how to deal with my boyfriends family!!?
I dealt with something similar my daughters dad family was so great to me during our almost 3 year relationship and post breakup after finding out I was preggers...well that didn't last long after giving birth to a 1lb preemie his family basically shut the door in my face. They totally disassociated themselves with me. Now that my daughter is older and healthy they want to be in our lives.
Point...every time he freaked out and snapped off on his fam they would back down...there's nothing you can do sweetie because you're not the problem!!! His family is and you don't deserve the stress, drama, and intensity of having to deal with that. If your boyfriend after 3 years cant break the barriers it might be time you guys dissipate the relationship.
Think about it? After 3 years if he doesn't know that in his heart that you mean that much to him to put his foot down with his family...will he ever. Taking anti-depressants isn't your common cold and sinus medication depression is a serious disease not a condition and you shouldn't allow yourself to be put through such tumultuous ordeals for another human being regardless of who he is to you at heart. What's more important....pleasing your boyfriends family or your well being?
Be yourself and don't put on aires. Kill with kindness and compassion. Show that you are the bigger person and are above all this. You boy should say something to his sister and tell her to stop saying things about you and keep any and all opinions to herself. You can't change anyone but yourself. But don't give up your self respect and stoop to there level of hate. Sister's have a way of making all future women (threats) fell very unwelcome into a family. Kinda like lionness in a pride of females, the dominate ones show that they are incharge and challenge all outsiders who try and get in. God Bless and Good Luck.
Wow.
thats a bit hard...
i think that you should find out what the family likes to do.
like, ask ur BF what his mum likes to do, mabey you have these things in common, then you have something to relate to.
for example, if she really likes shopping, invite her to a shopping trip.
And if you boyfriend knows this, then ask him to help you through this.
i really hope this helps you.
goodluck!!!
ritzi
If you really care for him and your relationship, work on it, but be aware that there may never be peace in that family... some families are just like that.
As far as the family, forget them. Seems like you've made the effort, now it is up to them. Sometimes it's more excitement for a bitter family to have someone to hate then to be open, accepting, and loving. I personally wouldn't put anymore effort into it...It would hurt, but I don't believe in putting myself out there for others to hurt me.
Antidepressants are wonderful drugs for those that need them. I don't know how old you are, but there is clinical depression and situational depression. If this is situational, then you need to break loose from the situation totally. Don't put yourself through it, it's not worth it! If it's clinical, you need to see a doc and let him/her deside.I need advice on how to deal with my boyfriends family!!?
I dealt with something similar my daughters dad family was so great to me during our almost 3 year relationship and post breakup after finding out I was preggers...well that didn't last long after giving birth to a 1lb preemie his family basically shut the door in my face. They totally disassociated themselves with me. Now that my daughter is older and healthy they want to be in our lives.
Point...every time he freaked out and snapped off on his fam they would back down...there's nothing you can do sweetie because you're not the problem!!! His family is and you don't deserve the stress, drama, and intensity of having to deal with that. If your boyfriend after 3 years cant break the barriers it might be time you guys dissipate the relationship.
Think about it? After 3 years if he doesn't know that in his heart that you mean that much to him to put his foot down with his family...will he ever. Taking anti-depressants isn't your common cold and sinus medication depression is a serious disease not a condition and you shouldn't allow yourself to be put through such tumultuous ordeals for another human being regardless of who he is to you at heart. What's more important....pleasing your boyfriends family or your well being?
Be yourself and don't put on aires. Kill with kindness and compassion. Show that you are the bigger person and are above all this. You boy should say something to his sister and tell her to stop saying things about you and keep any and all opinions to herself. You can't change anyone but yourself. But don't give up your self respect and stoop to there level of hate. Sister's have a way of making all future women (threats) fell very unwelcome into a family. Kinda like lionness in a pride of females, the dominate ones show that they are incharge and challenge all outsiders who try and get in. God Bless and Good Luck.
Wow.
thats a bit hard...
i think that you should find out what the family likes to do.
like, ask ur BF what his mum likes to do, mabey you have these things in common, then you have something to relate to.
for example, if she really likes shopping, invite her to a shopping trip.
And if you boyfriend knows this, then ask him to help you through this.
i really hope this helps you.
goodluck!!!
ritzi
How to deal with my boyfriends kids
im having a really hard time dealing with his kids these days,, when I first moved in with him two years ago,,everything was fine, they even wanted me to marry there dad,, now they would like to see me go,, he has four kids all together,,and now one lives with us,,and she 20 years old,,and now another one wants to move in as well and she is 17,,, they do not respect there dad or I,,at all,, they rule the rooster when there here,, they take over everything,,and when I try to stick up for there dad and I,,, everybody gets mad at me,,, so what to do,, HELP!How to deal with my boyfriends kids
kick em out.How to deal with my boyfriends kids
Get rid of their dad. If you are having these problems now, they will only get worse if you marry him. I went through the same thing.
change the locks on the doors
kick em out.How to deal with my boyfriends kids
Get rid of their dad. If you are having these problems now, they will only get worse if you marry him. I went through the same thing.
change the locks on the doors
What's the best way to deal with a boyfriend that has had a drug addiction in the past?
I recently started dating my boyfriend. Well,a month ago.
He's very nice and I pretty much adore him. The only problem is,I am worried that he will go behind my back and do what he use to do.
Since we got together he vowed to never touch a drug again. While I trust him to a certain extent,I also know that quitting drugs isn't just that easy to do,and sometimes still wonder.
How is one to deal with this,any advice?What's the best way to deal with a boyfriend that has had a drug addiction in the past?
N.A will help I'm an ex addict have been clean 14 months now. I go to 12 step meetings each week i also work and keep fit tell him to get into program where people that have been through the same thing can help him.......What's the best way to deal with a boyfriend that has had a drug addiction in the past?
tell him how much you admire him for being strong enough to quit,
try to keep the relationship positive, do not burden him with your problems, or start fights.
Many people get cravings several months after quitting, so be ready to support %26amp; distract him if that happens. If remains clean for year, he can do it forever. But be ready to leave him if can't make it.
I quit, just that easy. i remember how F-ed-up i use to be after being up for 4 days, and how angry i was at random people for no reason. I remember the hangovers that used to be there after getting smashed. Or waking up not remembering where i was. and then the struggle and sweats i would get from heroin.Now i wake up and realize i dont want to feel that any more.
Yeah. Watch for signs that his past drug problem hasn't moved back into the present. If it does, tell him to go to treatment or you're outta here.
that was his past and it made him who he is today, he as not deceived you and you should trust him to give him strengh to carry on his good work
Make him switch to a healthy diet u knw...juices n stuff...he'll then hate going back to drugs himself...n if possible make him knw abt ppl who had/have drugs n who suffered
trust him and if that is the pass let it be and if you see him doing it than just leave him
What drug was he into? That's the most critical thing to look at before deciding if he may go back to using them.
Run..his past will jeopardise your future!
When I was in my twenties, I was a heavy addict of downers, any kind I could get my hands on. I even melted some and shot them under my tongue. When I went to a rehab, they didn't even want to take me, they said they couldn't help me because I needed LONG TERM help.
But, I was determined, and I quit. And, because I worked to damn hard to quit, if someone didn't trust me when I said I wasn't doing it anymore, I wouldn't go out with them again.
Of course, I didn't blame them for being a little wary, but, unless I gave them good reason not to trust me, or they heard I was doing drugs again or I was acting funny, then I felt that they should trust me.
It takes guts and work to quit drugs, and is an everyday struggle. But, at this rehab, they said don't even THINK about a relationship for at least two years into sobriety, because we needed to concentrate on staying sober without any major interruptions.
I found this to be true, because every person that didn't listen and got into a relationship, with all the little problems, arguments, jealousy's, etc., ended up back on drugs or alcohol.
You CAN be sober for many, many years and then fall off the wagon and start your addiction again, even if it's twenty years down the road. The feelings of addiction never go away, because that is how you handled your problems, and the first thing you think about when you have a problem, is how easy it would be to just get high and not deal with it.
My question to you is this; what was he on, how long was he on it, how much did he do, and did he get help in quitting? Also, did he change his lifestyle when he quit drugs. You cannot go back to your old lifestyle and friends once you quit drugs or alcohol. Not if they are the friends that are still into it. Stopping an addiction is an entire lifestyle change.
If any of those questions I asked you were a concern to you, than be very careful, but trust him until he proves otherwise.
look i'm the best person to tell you about drug addiction and you know if someone is cheating cus i uesd to do X,lsd,ext... just hard-core drugs really bad it ****** up me and the ppl around me it made me think dif about life i did alot of thingsi'm not happy of :/
but the reson i stop was well...my gf really cared about me and i cared alot about her and i man up and i picked her over drugs
i mean it's not easy to stop doing i'm being honset so if your bf does weed on him don't get to mad cus drugs are really had to doing trust me i know but tell him how you feel try to do like lots of fun things to get his mind off of drugs like movies,mall,danceing but not party's try your best make sure he does not hangout with ppl who do drugs cus he will started doing them again i'm trying my best not hang around ppl who do drugs cus i know i will get back in to them
but ya your bf should be really happy that he has someone who really does care about him cus it helps alot when you have someone there for you it's the best way for someone to relays
He's very nice and I pretty much adore him. The only problem is,I am worried that he will go behind my back and do what he use to do.
Since we got together he vowed to never touch a drug again. While I trust him to a certain extent,I also know that quitting drugs isn't just that easy to do,and sometimes still wonder.
How is one to deal with this,any advice?What's the best way to deal with a boyfriend that has had a drug addiction in the past?
N.A will help I'm an ex addict have been clean 14 months now. I go to 12 step meetings each week i also work and keep fit tell him to get into program where people that have been through the same thing can help him.......What's the best way to deal with a boyfriend that has had a drug addiction in the past?
tell him how much you admire him for being strong enough to quit,
try to keep the relationship positive, do not burden him with your problems, or start fights.
Many people get cravings several months after quitting, so be ready to support %26amp; distract him if that happens. If remains clean for year, he can do it forever. But be ready to leave him if can't make it.
I quit, just that easy. i remember how F-ed-up i use to be after being up for 4 days, and how angry i was at random people for no reason. I remember the hangovers that used to be there after getting smashed. Or waking up not remembering where i was. and then the struggle and sweats i would get from heroin.Now i wake up and realize i dont want to feel that any more.
Yeah. Watch for signs that his past drug problem hasn't moved back into the present. If it does, tell him to go to treatment or you're outta here.
that was his past and it made him who he is today, he as not deceived you and you should trust him to give him strengh to carry on his good work
Make him switch to a healthy diet u knw...juices n stuff...he'll then hate going back to drugs himself...n if possible make him knw abt ppl who had/have drugs n who suffered
trust him and if that is the pass let it be and if you see him doing it than just leave him
What drug was he into? That's the most critical thing to look at before deciding if he may go back to using them.
Run..his past will jeopardise your future!
When I was in my twenties, I was a heavy addict of downers, any kind I could get my hands on. I even melted some and shot them under my tongue. When I went to a rehab, they didn't even want to take me, they said they couldn't help me because I needed LONG TERM help.
But, I was determined, and I quit. And, because I worked to damn hard to quit, if someone didn't trust me when I said I wasn't doing it anymore, I wouldn't go out with them again.
Of course, I didn't blame them for being a little wary, but, unless I gave them good reason not to trust me, or they heard I was doing drugs again or I was acting funny, then I felt that they should trust me.
It takes guts and work to quit drugs, and is an everyday struggle. But, at this rehab, they said don't even THINK about a relationship for at least two years into sobriety, because we needed to concentrate on staying sober without any major interruptions.
I found this to be true, because every person that didn't listen and got into a relationship, with all the little problems, arguments, jealousy's, etc., ended up back on drugs or alcohol.
You CAN be sober for many, many years and then fall off the wagon and start your addiction again, even if it's twenty years down the road. The feelings of addiction never go away, because that is how you handled your problems, and the first thing you think about when you have a problem, is how easy it would be to just get high and not deal with it.
My question to you is this; what was he on, how long was he on it, how much did he do, and did he get help in quitting? Also, did he change his lifestyle when he quit drugs. You cannot go back to your old lifestyle and friends once you quit drugs or alcohol. Not if they are the friends that are still into it. Stopping an addiction is an entire lifestyle change.
If any of those questions I asked you were a concern to you, than be very careful, but trust him until he proves otherwise.
look i'm the best person to tell you about drug addiction and you know if someone is cheating cus i uesd to do X,lsd,ext... just hard-core drugs really bad it ****** up me and the ppl around me it made me think dif about life i did alot of thingsi'm not happy of :/
but the reson i stop was well...my gf really cared about me and i cared alot about her and i man up and i picked her over drugs
i mean it's not easy to stop doing i'm being honset so if your bf does weed on him don't get to mad cus drugs are really had to doing trust me i know but tell him how you feel try to do like lots of fun things to get his mind off of drugs like movies,mall,danceing but not party's try your best make sure he does not hangout with ppl who do drugs cus he will started doing them again i'm trying my best not hang around ppl who do drugs cus i know i will get back in to them
but ya your bf should be really happy that he has someone who really does care about him cus it helps alot when you have someone there for you it's the best way for someone to relays
I need help! I need ideas on how to deal with my boyfriends deployment.?
If you have experience dealing with a loved one being deployed please give me so suggestions on what I can do to cope with less communication than I would like. I am new to this process and want to make it work so any help would be awesome!!I need help! I need ideas on how to deal with my boyfriends deployment.?
volunteer for organizations that aide soldiers. or just volunteer for something you are passionate about.
create a social network with other wives/girlfriends. take turns hosting dinners or get togethers.
visit with his family, who will be missing him too.I need help! I need ideas on how to deal with my boyfriends deployment.?
find other women who have there boyfriend or husband deployed and try to get together one or two times a week
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volunteer for organizations that aide soldiers. or just volunteer for something you are passionate about.
create a social network with other wives/girlfriends. take turns hosting dinners or get togethers.
visit with his family, who will be missing him too.I need help! I need ideas on how to deal with my boyfriends deployment.?
find other women who have there boyfriend or husband deployed and try to get together one or two times a week
birds of a feather
How do you deal with a boyfriend who has a child he hasn't seen in several years?
I am in a very serious relationship with a man who had a child in college and hasn't seen that child in several years. He obviously feels very guilty about it, but says that the child's stepfather is taking good care of her. I am not sure how to deal with this. This is a man I want to spend the rest of my life with... What is the best way to handle the situation?How do you deal with a boyfriend who has a child he hasn't seen in several years?
the best way to handle the situation is to talk to him a bit more and find out exactly what's going on and whether or not he really regrets his choices and what he'd do differently if he had it to do over again.
This last part is very important if you plan on having children w/ him because w/ people, past behavior is a prediction of future behavior if they haven't grown. His reasons for not being a part of his daughter's life will also tell you what kind of man he used to be (%26amp; could still be) and what type of relationship he had w/ his ex and how he behaves in a break up. Be leery of any blanket statements where everything is all the other person's fault--it is very very rarely true. Believe complaints about the ex when he also is able to point out his negative behavior in the situation.
you've been given a heads up that you need to move slowly w/ this guy until all of your questions have been answered. This isn't the sort of convo you can have and expect a big one time info dump. This is something that will be ongoing for a while and that will reveal itself over time if you're paying attention.How do you deal with a boyfriend who has a child he hasn't seen in several years?
If he had a relationship with his child that was a happy one, there would be no reason that he would not see his child, no matter who is taking care of her. There's a reason behiond him not seeing his child and the reason is NOT that the stepfather is taking of her!! You need to get to the bottom of that before you get too far involved with this person. Maybe he's really a deadbeat dad - hate to say that, but he could be! Maybe somethng happened between him and his daughter that you are not aware of.
Nothing would keep me away from my children for several years, NOTHING! No matter who was taking care of them!
You may very well find that there is more to this story that he has not told you, be gentle in your probing him for answers! But you need answers and true ones, if you plan to spend the rest of your life with this person.
Holly, he needs to explain to you why he has chosen to not be apart of his child's life until now. This may have a great impact on your relationship. How would he treat you and your child if you have one together? Would he walk away from you? You need to really resolve this but deal with it with plenty of love but be FIRM with him. Show him that you indeed respect him but this is a very serious part of you guys lives. This is effecting five people and his child is center and most important in his life, before you and your relationship. The child needs to know that he loves and cares and will be there for them regardless now. He cannot come in and out of her life. This will only makes matters worse. People don't understand the impact of parents being separate from the child. He needs to show you that he is a kind person and he will do anything to make up for lose time. Standing by his side and showing him support and suggest ideas how he and his child can grow closer together. Answers, respect, honestly and patience are key here.
I found out a couple months ago that I might have a kid I didn't know about. If she is mine she's nine years old already.
Before finding out I didn't have a clue. I still don't know if she is mine or not. I've since decided that I am not going to contact the mother or the daughter until she is at least 16 and can handle the mental anguish. If she is mine, the mother probably hasn't told her the truth about who her father is.
I want kids. I think I would be a good father and a devoted husband.
So for you what you need to ask yourself is this man you're interested in the type of person who would be a good father and a devoted husband?
If yes, then don't worry about his kid. He worries about it enough already.
I think that now it will only do harm if ur guy will try to meet his kid. He is just a biological dad, the real dad is one who is bringing it up..
When young, at college people make mistakes. I think that kid is no problem for u. Now u make a new family with the guy.. luck
The only situation going on is in your head!!! Nothing is going to change between you and him unless you start to make an issues out of this. Just support your man and he will continue to take care of you!!!
if you settle for that, then deal with it
otherwise speak up and tell him how you feel and if he don't care send him a ultimatum
u dump him
the best way to handle the situation is to talk to him a bit more and find out exactly what's going on and whether or not he really regrets his choices and what he'd do differently if he had it to do over again.
This last part is very important if you plan on having children w/ him because w/ people, past behavior is a prediction of future behavior if they haven't grown. His reasons for not being a part of his daughter's life will also tell you what kind of man he used to be (%26amp; could still be) and what type of relationship he had w/ his ex and how he behaves in a break up. Be leery of any blanket statements where everything is all the other person's fault--it is very very rarely true. Believe complaints about the ex when he also is able to point out his negative behavior in the situation.
you've been given a heads up that you need to move slowly w/ this guy until all of your questions have been answered. This isn't the sort of convo you can have and expect a big one time info dump. This is something that will be ongoing for a while and that will reveal itself over time if you're paying attention.How do you deal with a boyfriend who has a child he hasn't seen in several years?
If he had a relationship with his child that was a happy one, there would be no reason that he would not see his child, no matter who is taking care of her. There's a reason behiond him not seeing his child and the reason is NOT that the stepfather is taking of her!! You need to get to the bottom of that before you get too far involved with this person. Maybe he's really a deadbeat dad - hate to say that, but he could be! Maybe somethng happened between him and his daughter that you are not aware of.
Nothing would keep me away from my children for several years, NOTHING! No matter who was taking care of them!
You may very well find that there is more to this story that he has not told you, be gentle in your probing him for answers! But you need answers and true ones, if you plan to spend the rest of your life with this person.
Holly, he needs to explain to you why he has chosen to not be apart of his child's life until now. This may have a great impact on your relationship. How would he treat you and your child if you have one together? Would he walk away from you? You need to really resolve this but deal with it with plenty of love but be FIRM with him. Show him that you indeed respect him but this is a very serious part of you guys lives. This is effecting five people and his child is center and most important in his life, before you and your relationship. The child needs to know that he loves and cares and will be there for them regardless now. He cannot come in and out of her life. This will only makes matters worse. People don't understand the impact of parents being separate from the child. He needs to show you that he is a kind person and he will do anything to make up for lose time. Standing by his side and showing him support and suggest ideas how he and his child can grow closer together. Answers, respect, honestly and patience are key here.
I found out a couple months ago that I might have a kid I didn't know about. If she is mine she's nine years old already.
Before finding out I didn't have a clue. I still don't know if she is mine or not. I've since decided that I am not going to contact the mother or the daughter until she is at least 16 and can handle the mental anguish. If she is mine, the mother probably hasn't told her the truth about who her father is.
I want kids. I think I would be a good father and a devoted husband.
So for you what you need to ask yourself is this man you're interested in the type of person who would be a good father and a devoted husband?
If yes, then don't worry about his kid. He worries about it enough already.
I think that now it will only do harm if ur guy will try to meet his kid. He is just a biological dad, the real dad is one who is bringing it up..
When young, at college people make mistakes. I think that kid is no problem for u. Now u make a new family with the guy.. luck
The only situation going on is in your head!!! Nothing is going to change between you and him unless you start to make an issues out of this. Just support your man and he will continue to take care of you!!!
if you settle for that, then deal with it
otherwise speak up and tell him how you feel and if he don't care send him a ultimatum
u dump him
How Do I deal with my boyfriend not being a virgin and I am?
I have a boyfriend but he lost he virginity like a week before we got together and its making feel weird cause its like, I wanted us to lose our virginity's together. How Am I Suppose to feel. Should I just deal with it.?How Do I deal with my boyfriend not being a virgin and I am?
I understand how you feel, it can be really hard, i know it was for me. But if you love him and you are serious about being with him, then don't think about what he's done, pretend it didn't happen. There will be times where it will be difficult for you but i suggest that you don't ask him any questions about his past, it will only make things harder on you. Just try and forget about it, you will in time. I hope everything works out ok xHow Do I deal with my boyfriend not being a virgin and I am?
You can't lose them together, so I suggest you deal with it because that's your only choice... that and breaking up with him to find a virgin to lose it to.
I understand how you feel, it can be really hard, i know it was for me. But if you love him and you are serious about being with him, then don't think about what he's done, pretend it didn't happen. There will be times where it will be difficult for you but i suggest that you don't ask him any questions about his past, it will only make things harder on you. Just try and forget about it, you will in time. I hope everything works out ok xHow Do I deal with my boyfriend not being a virgin and I am?
You can't lose them together, so I suggest you deal with it because that's your only choice... that and breaking up with him to find a virgin to lose it to.
How do i deal with my boyfriend trying to pick a fights with me?
My boyfriend of almost 5 years is always trying to create a fight with me out of nowhere whenever he wants to get some space.How do i deal with that? P.S. otherwise he is a very good and caring manHow do i deal with my boyfriend trying to pick a fights with me?
men will pick a fight when they are seeing another woman as wa way of justifying what they are doing, or as a way to get out of the house to be with the other woman. he seems like a man who can't problem solve or deal with himself. if he is disrespecting u and picking fights then he really doesn't sound like he loves u. sometimes there are things u can't deal with unless u confront it head on and tell him what your feeling.How do i deal with my boyfriend trying to pick a fights with me?
You have been with him 5 years and he has made no true commitment to you?????
And you can not see what he is doing????
He is needing his space because he does not want the relationship anymore and he doesn't know how to be honest with you.
Girl.....give him his space and more. Go find you again and stop suffocating him. Maintain your self respect and dignity.....do not hurt yourself anymore...by wasting your life and love on a guy who, obviously, doesn't love you. Only you can change the outcome of this by changing you.....you can not change him.
When a man truly loves a woman, he WANTS and NEEDS to be with you......he laughs with you, cuddles with you, and plans a future with you. After 5 years....he still hasn't made any true commitment to you???? I think I would have enough pride to get the hint.
I am not trying to hurt your feelings....but really, I think you are hurting yourself by settling for a guy that doesn't want to be with you.
Never settle.....and I think you are scared to leave for fear of the unknown.....But....it takes courage to live and courage to love....and even more courage to leave...when the door has been opened for you.
Sorry....but you asked
Naw, stop accepting partial niceness from him. If he is nice 85% and a stinker 15%....HE IS A STINKER.
WHY? That is the great question. Why the need for space..usually that indicates an interest outside of your relationship. Not necessarily another woman, perhaps a need for male bonding. Perhaps just bored being at home and he knows the truth will cause a disagreement, so he starts one to get out on top of the game. Who knows. Only him. Ask him why he starts arguments and you will get another. Agree with him when you see it coming and see how he squirms to get out. Something is amis!
Why create a fight just to get some ';me'; time. Wouldn't it be better to be open and honest and save the fight? Just tell your significant other that you need some ';me'; time. In the long run it would be healthier for the relationship and both parties involved than the fake fight excuse.
There is no positive to his actions. He is not a good and caring man or he wouldn't put you through this. Stop trying to make excuses and get out of the relationship. If you are smothering him then stop it. That's not a way to keep a guy. Good luck
Deal with it by locking him out of the house the next time he stomps off in a sulk.
When a person picks a fight so that they can leave, 8 times out of 10 they are cheating.
I wish I could help you, but I only know marriage and divorce things. This is the marriage and divorce section that you're in, not the dating and relationships section. Did you post the question here by mistake?
don't respond to his picking. just tell him, I am not going to argue with you over this.
Walk away from him.
men will pick a fight when they are seeing another woman as wa way of justifying what they are doing, or as a way to get out of the house to be with the other woman. he seems like a man who can't problem solve or deal with himself. if he is disrespecting u and picking fights then he really doesn't sound like he loves u. sometimes there are things u can't deal with unless u confront it head on and tell him what your feeling.How do i deal with my boyfriend trying to pick a fights with me?
You have been with him 5 years and he has made no true commitment to you?????
And you can not see what he is doing????
He is needing his space because he does not want the relationship anymore and he doesn't know how to be honest with you.
Girl.....give him his space and more. Go find you again and stop suffocating him. Maintain your self respect and dignity.....do not hurt yourself anymore...by wasting your life and love on a guy who, obviously, doesn't love you. Only you can change the outcome of this by changing you.....you can not change him.
When a man truly loves a woman, he WANTS and NEEDS to be with you......he laughs with you, cuddles with you, and plans a future with you. After 5 years....he still hasn't made any true commitment to you???? I think I would have enough pride to get the hint.
I am not trying to hurt your feelings....but really, I think you are hurting yourself by settling for a guy that doesn't want to be with you.
Never settle.....and I think you are scared to leave for fear of the unknown.....But....it takes courage to live and courage to love....and even more courage to leave...when the door has been opened for you.
Sorry....but you asked
Naw, stop accepting partial niceness from him. If he is nice 85% and a stinker 15%....HE IS A STINKER.
WHY? That is the great question. Why the need for space..usually that indicates an interest outside of your relationship. Not necessarily another woman, perhaps a need for male bonding. Perhaps just bored being at home and he knows the truth will cause a disagreement, so he starts one to get out on top of the game. Who knows. Only him. Ask him why he starts arguments and you will get another. Agree with him when you see it coming and see how he squirms to get out. Something is amis!
Why create a fight just to get some ';me'; time. Wouldn't it be better to be open and honest and save the fight? Just tell your significant other that you need some ';me'; time. In the long run it would be healthier for the relationship and both parties involved than the fake fight excuse.
There is no positive to his actions. He is not a good and caring man or he wouldn't put you through this. Stop trying to make excuses and get out of the relationship. If you are smothering him then stop it. That's not a way to keep a guy. Good luck
Deal with it by locking him out of the house the next time he stomps off in a sulk.
When a person picks a fight so that they can leave, 8 times out of 10 they are cheating.
I wish I could help you, but I only know marriage and divorce things. This is the marriage and divorce section that you're in, not the dating and relationships section. Did you post the question here by mistake?
don't respond to his picking. just tell him, I am not going to argue with you over this.
Walk away from him.
How to deal with my boyfriend going on deployment?
Hello,
Just a couple of weeks ago my boyfriend found out he is getting deployed soon. I am having a hard time dealing with him leaving. We have been together for quite some time and we are very serious, so this isn't a young love type of relationship. Any advice on how to deal with this, would be helpful. Also, please include things you did before your significant other left and during the deployment that made it easier. And how did you deal with him returning? I am guessing his attitude will be different when he returns... how did you cope? How did you help him cope? Thank you so much.How to deal with my boyfriend going on deployment?
Well make god a big part of your life trust him with your sorrows and your fears. Second be strong your bf is doing a great thing serving his coountry be proud.
Just a couple of weeks ago my boyfriend found out he is getting deployed soon. I am having a hard time dealing with him leaving. We have been together for quite some time and we are very serious, so this isn't a young love type of relationship. Any advice on how to deal with this, would be helpful. Also, please include things you did before your significant other left and during the deployment that made it easier. And how did you deal with him returning? I am guessing his attitude will be different when he returns... how did you cope? How did you help him cope? Thank you so much.How to deal with my boyfriend going on deployment?
Well make god a big part of your life trust him with your sorrows and your fears. Second be strong your bf is doing a great thing serving his coountry be proud.
How to go about dealing with BOYFRIENDS BESTFRIENDS?
My boyfriends best friend just moved back to TX from FL. He moved into my boyfriends house and its the first time I've met him. It has taken a bit of the lime light away from me but I dont mind much. I really rather get in good with his bestfriend so when he starts to go out and look for a gf he respects me enough not to try and pressure my bf to cheat.
I'm always really nice say hi and bye. When I was first going to meet him I was going to my bfs and we both recently picked up the habit to eat pickles and doritos. Well not wanting to exclude his bestfriend i brough him some too! When I got there though my bf didnt introduce us his friend had to introduce himself and my bf took the extra pickle and doritos without telling his friend. When I asked him why he didnt tell his friend about the food he said more for us.Then he told his friend to leave. I kinda get the feeling my bf doesnt want me and his bestfriend to get too cool? Oh %26amp; all my girlfriends have boyfriends!
Ur opinions?How to go about dealing with BOYFRIENDS BESTFRIENDS?
my opinion is pickles and doritos sound like the most god awful thing if eaten together. i'm gonna go puke now.How to go about dealing with BOYFRIENDS BESTFRIENDS?
Maybe his best friend thinks your hot and your boyfriend doesn't like it. Maybe he is a little uncomfortable and thinks your being to nice to his friend? Maybe his friend cheated with one of your boyfriends ex.
I guess try not to make a big effort to be his friend for now.
I'm always really nice say hi and bye. When I was first going to meet him I was going to my bfs and we both recently picked up the habit to eat pickles and doritos. Well not wanting to exclude his bestfriend i brough him some too! When I got there though my bf didnt introduce us his friend had to introduce himself and my bf took the extra pickle and doritos without telling his friend. When I asked him why he didnt tell his friend about the food he said more for us.Then he told his friend to leave. I kinda get the feeling my bf doesnt want me and his bestfriend to get too cool? Oh %26amp; all my girlfriends have boyfriends!
Ur opinions?How to go about dealing with BOYFRIENDS BESTFRIENDS?
my opinion is pickles and doritos sound like the most god awful thing if eaten together. i'm gonna go puke now.How to go about dealing with BOYFRIENDS BESTFRIENDS?
Maybe his best friend thinks your hot and your boyfriend doesn't like it. Maybe he is a little uncomfortable and thinks your being to nice to his friend? Maybe his friend cheated with one of your boyfriends ex.
I guess try not to make a big effort to be his friend for now.
How to deal with my boyfriends son?
I am 19, and my boyfriend is 32, and he has a 12 year old son. His son and i got along great for about a month, I try not to get involved when my boyfriend disaplines him, but last weekend his son was really disrespecful to me, because his dad sad no, and i didnt take his side, well i didnt say anything. I am just want some different point of views on this, and advice, Thanks!How to deal with my boyfriends son?
Huh? What do you want opinions on? The father not doing anything about the disrespect or what? If you want respect I say you should pipe up about what is going on and tell both father and son how you wish to be treated. You shouldn't be stepped on because you aren't on the kid's side of things. And the father can't intervene either because, if you are to be his partner and all in his life now you have to demand respect from his son. Not like putting your hands on the boy or anything, just telling him that you don't appreciate being treated like he treated you. And that its not your place to choose sides. But you should have established this early on when dating his father. You should have told the son how it was going to be. Because you hadn't in the beginning he feels he can treat you how he wants as you don't take sides. But you have to be adult enough to put your foot down. I mean when dating a older man with a child you aren't just dating him you are stepping into his family unit and you have to prove that you can hold your own or the kid will always run over you.
P.S. Just because you are still young yet and with a older guy. You still have to be adult enough for the man you are with and for that child. Kids today always disrespect elders when they see they are being weak. So you can't be switzerland in this situation. Kids don't put up with neutral people in their lives they need that strong hand. And personally I think if you aren't ready to tell the kid how it is, then you shouldn't be in such an adult situation and not know how to act. I'm sure your boyfriend will see that over time as well. So if you wish to be part of the ';family'; then stand up for yourself now or you may find your way out.How to deal with my boyfriends son?
Oh wow....ur in some tough situation and ur just 19...good luck to u
damn that kid could be yr brother...sheesh grl...what did u get urself into
I'm not trying to be mean but I agree with the first person. I wouldn't give a **** about what you'd have to say and just because you're like my new step-mother, doesn't me you have any control over me.
No 12 year old will respect a dads 19 year old girlfriend.
Huh? What do you want opinions on? The father not doing anything about the disrespect or what? If you want respect I say you should pipe up about what is going on and tell both father and son how you wish to be treated. You shouldn't be stepped on because you aren't on the kid's side of things. And the father can't intervene either because, if you are to be his partner and all in his life now you have to demand respect from his son. Not like putting your hands on the boy or anything, just telling him that you don't appreciate being treated like he treated you. And that its not your place to choose sides. But you should have established this early on when dating his father. You should have told the son how it was going to be. Because you hadn't in the beginning he feels he can treat you how he wants as you don't take sides. But you have to be adult enough to put your foot down. I mean when dating a older man with a child you aren't just dating him you are stepping into his family unit and you have to prove that you can hold your own or the kid will always run over you.
P.S. Just because you are still young yet and with a older guy. You still have to be adult enough for the man you are with and for that child. Kids today always disrespect elders when they see they are being weak. So you can't be switzerland in this situation. Kids don't put up with neutral people in their lives they need that strong hand. And personally I think if you aren't ready to tell the kid how it is, then you shouldn't be in such an adult situation and not know how to act. I'm sure your boyfriend will see that over time as well. So if you wish to be part of the ';family'; then stand up for yourself now or you may find your way out.How to deal with my boyfriends son?
Oh wow....ur in some tough situation and ur just 19...good luck to u
damn that kid could be yr brother...sheesh grl...what did u get urself into
I'm not trying to be mean but I agree with the first person. I wouldn't give a **** about what you'd have to say and just because you're like my new step-mother, doesn't me you have any control over me.
No 12 year old will respect a dads 19 year old girlfriend.
How to deal with a boyfriend who is mostly busy at work?
We have a good time when we meet ..but that is hardly once in a week...He is in computer related field. Is it ok? If not..how would you deal with it?How to deal with a boyfriend who is mostly busy at work?
Ignore him (as if)! He will come to you!!
Ignore him (as if)! He will come to you!!
How can I deal with my boyfriend being bisexual?
My boyfriend is bisexual, but he says he only and wants to have feelings for me and that I am his one and only. I'm his girlfriend and I love him to death and he does the same for me. But I've been having troubles understanding how I can deal with this bisexual thing. It's killing me, but I respect him for who is or what he is. But how can I deal with it???How can I deal with my boyfriend being bisexual?
I have a similar situation sorta. My girlfriend is bi, and I'm full out lesbian, but I know she loves me, it's all alright. The thing about bisexual people that you gotta understand, is being bi means you have the POTENTIAL to love male or female. If he loves you, then it's all ok. Just think of it this way, if he were straight, it'd be the same way, right? He loves you, out of all the other girls out there, you're the one he likes. Only now, since he's bi, he loves you, out of all the other girls and guys. Not so much different, yeah? =)How can I deal with my boyfriend being bisexual?
You don't DEAL with it.
There are thing you can live with and some you can live without. I do not think you should leave him because he's bisexual; however, if you are unable to wrap your head around that concept, that he could or has been with men, then its a core issue with you.
There is no need to feel like you are sparing his feelings by staying with him and burying your own feelings. Be honest with him and be honest internally.
If you respect him for who he is, doesn't mean you have to love him and be the one he counts on for everything.
Being gay or bi, or str8 is awesome, but it requires a like minded partner who is truly ';ok'; with it ALL.
Don't worry about it. Just because he's bi doesn't mean he wants you AND a guy. To a bi person, gender is just another physical feature, like eye color. We fall in love with people and gender just doesn't matter much. He's no more likely to cheat than anyone else, and he loves you just as much as he would if he were straight.
I'm a bi woman and I fell madly in love with a man. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me and I never want anyone else. I'm sure your guy feels the same way about you.
You let it go. If he were straight, would there is still the chance that he might be attracted to other girls than you, but he has made a commitment to you. He has said that you are the only one he wants to be with, so does it matter whether the people he is not going to be with are male or female? What matters is that he respects you and that he is committed to you. The same way that is all that matters if you were a completely straight couple.
Being bisexual does not mean he is suddenly unable to control himself. Nor does it mean he loves every guy that goes past.
If you aren't worried about him going after other girls while you are with him, this shouldn't be an issue either.
If you love him, you love all of him, and this is just another part of who he is.
If he chooses to be with you, he is the same as the majority of guys, bisexual, but most don't admit it! At least he is honest.
Make love with him, and finger his a*us for him when you give him a bj.
its just like if he was straight and he saw women. Its the same.
you should trust that he won't leave you for another girl or guy, so you just have to accept it
just treat it like looking at a girl you could end up having a 3 some
well jus get him to talk about it .... but if he says thos things thn mayb he does feel like tht for u now
I'm guessing you're a teenager/early twenties, and for a guy in that age group to claim to be bisexual can mean one of a few things. He's an overly emotional nitwit, he's looking for attention, he's trying to appear as if he's 'open minded'. I dated a bisexual male before, and the only thing I learned was that it means he didn't know the meaning of the word commitment. There are very few people nowadays that claim to be bisexual/homosexual and mean it, and when someone tells me that they're bisexual, I rarely believe them. Out of at least ten people to make that claim, only one has actually stayed true to the statement.
i dated a girl who was bisexual once, and she used to bring other girls into bed, and often times sleep with them without me. i was ok with it as long as she wasnt sleeping with other guys. it was pretty sweet if you ask me. VERY NICE. if you dont like it, tell him not to be bisexual anymore, its his choice.
His sitting on the fence is a danger to you both, health wise. Sooner or later he is going to wind up with SDS and your going to get it.
I think him cheating on you is practically embedded in your relationship.
I have a similar situation sorta. My girlfriend is bi, and I'm full out lesbian, but I know she loves me, it's all alright. The thing about bisexual people that you gotta understand, is being bi means you have the POTENTIAL to love male or female. If he loves you, then it's all ok. Just think of it this way, if he were straight, it'd be the same way, right? He loves you, out of all the other girls out there, you're the one he likes. Only now, since he's bi, he loves you, out of all the other girls and guys. Not so much different, yeah? =)How can I deal with my boyfriend being bisexual?
You don't DEAL with it.
There are thing you can live with and some you can live without. I do not think you should leave him because he's bisexual; however, if you are unable to wrap your head around that concept, that he could or has been with men, then its a core issue with you.
There is no need to feel like you are sparing his feelings by staying with him and burying your own feelings. Be honest with him and be honest internally.
If you respect him for who he is, doesn't mean you have to love him and be the one he counts on for everything.
Being gay or bi, or str8 is awesome, but it requires a like minded partner who is truly ';ok'; with it ALL.
Don't worry about it. Just because he's bi doesn't mean he wants you AND a guy. To a bi person, gender is just another physical feature, like eye color. We fall in love with people and gender just doesn't matter much. He's no more likely to cheat than anyone else, and he loves you just as much as he would if he were straight.
I'm a bi woman and I fell madly in love with a man. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me and I never want anyone else. I'm sure your guy feels the same way about you.
You let it go. If he were straight, would there is still the chance that he might be attracted to other girls than you, but he has made a commitment to you. He has said that you are the only one he wants to be with, so does it matter whether the people he is not going to be with are male or female? What matters is that he respects you and that he is committed to you. The same way that is all that matters if you were a completely straight couple.
Being bisexual does not mean he is suddenly unable to control himself. Nor does it mean he loves every guy that goes past.
If you aren't worried about him going after other girls while you are with him, this shouldn't be an issue either.
If you love him, you love all of him, and this is just another part of who he is.
If he chooses to be with you, he is the same as the majority of guys, bisexual, but most don't admit it! At least he is honest.
Make love with him, and finger his a*us for him when you give him a bj.
its just like if he was straight and he saw women. Its the same.
you should trust that he won't leave you for another girl or guy, so you just have to accept it
just treat it like looking at a girl you could end up having a 3 some
well jus get him to talk about it .... but if he says thos things thn mayb he does feel like tht for u now
I'm guessing you're a teenager/early twenties, and for a guy in that age group to claim to be bisexual can mean one of a few things. He's an overly emotional nitwit, he's looking for attention, he's trying to appear as if he's 'open minded'. I dated a bisexual male before, and the only thing I learned was that it means he didn't know the meaning of the word commitment. There are very few people nowadays that claim to be bisexual/homosexual and mean it, and when someone tells me that they're bisexual, I rarely believe them. Out of at least ten people to make that claim, only one has actually stayed true to the statement.
i dated a girl who was bisexual once, and she used to bring other girls into bed, and often times sleep with them without me. i was ok with it as long as she wasnt sleeping with other guys. it was pretty sweet if you ask me. VERY NICE. if you dont like it, tell him not to be bisexual anymore, its his choice.
His sitting on the fence is a danger to you both, health wise. Sooner or later he is going to wind up with SDS and your going to get it.
I think him cheating on you is practically embedded in your relationship.
How do I deal with my boyfriend moving away?
I know it's not soo bad, like another state or anything, but my boyfriend will be moving an hour away. With neither of us having transportation, I would have to take a 2-4 hour bus/train ride to see him!!! And that's IF he could even have any visitors where he is staying. I'll be lucky if I see him one or two times a month, when I use to see him almost every day! Does anyone have any advice on how I can deal with the seperation?? :(How do I deal with my boyfriend moving away?
I'm so sorry! I found myself currently in a long distance relationship and it really sucks :( BUT it's do-able. You just have to have a lot of dedication (both of you), as much communication as you can get without overdoing it (still have a life) and time will tell you probably rather quickly if this will make or break you.
To help with the sudden distance (my bf and I both started out seeing eachother everyday to being far apart) we both keep a notebook (composition notebooks work great for this because they are bound so well!) and write to eachother whenever we want but cannot talk. Ex. I write to him when I'm on the tram to school or during class or between class or at home when he's working. He does the same. We include pictures. handdrawn, magazine cutouts, pictures of us blowing kisses, pictures of us when we were together, etc. It really helps a lot. I write not jsut when I'm happy but also when I'm angry or sad.
Good luck!How do I deal with my boyfriend moving away?
thanks soo much!! It's real helpful to know you're not alone in cases like this. Plus you're suggestions were good. I found out he may not even be able to have visitors because he's renting a room from a family; and I'm staying with a friend as it is!! so the letter thing is a great help!! thanks!!
well i know how you feel
my boyfriend moved to Oklahoma [i live in California by the way]
and i didnt know what to do
but i managed to keep in touch with him
try to call him, his voice with probably satisfy you enough to not have a break down :D
by the way im only 13 sooo i cant drive our take a bus or plane or anything to see him....
just try not to loose connection with him
haha and if you even need to talk about it
email me :D savanahlove10@yahoo.com
i guess i can relate to you
wait how old are you by the way? haha
if yall dont have transportation because your too young to drivve or just havent gotten your liscense then your too young to worry about it.
i would just go separate ways, youll both find someone new
if you just dont have a car then yea id make the trip.
If you are really in love, you will find a way to cope.
Else end it.
I'm so sorry! I found myself currently in a long distance relationship and it really sucks :( BUT it's do-able. You just have to have a lot of dedication (both of you), as much communication as you can get without overdoing it (still have a life) and time will tell you probably rather quickly if this will make or break you.
To help with the sudden distance (my bf and I both started out seeing eachother everyday to being far apart) we both keep a notebook (composition notebooks work great for this because they are bound so well!) and write to eachother whenever we want but cannot talk. Ex. I write to him when I'm on the tram to school or during class or between class or at home when he's working. He does the same. We include pictures. handdrawn, magazine cutouts, pictures of us blowing kisses, pictures of us when we were together, etc. It really helps a lot. I write not jsut when I'm happy but also when I'm angry or sad.
Good luck!How do I deal with my boyfriend moving away?
thanks soo much!! It's real helpful to know you're not alone in cases like this. Plus you're suggestions were good. I found out he may not even be able to have visitors because he's renting a room from a family; and I'm staying with a friend as it is!! so the letter thing is a great help!! thanks!!
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well i know how you feel
my boyfriend moved to Oklahoma [i live in California by the way]
and i didnt know what to do
but i managed to keep in touch with him
try to call him, his voice with probably satisfy you enough to not have a break down :D
by the way im only 13 sooo i cant drive our take a bus or plane or anything to see him....
just try not to loose connection with him
haha and if you even need to talk about it
email me :D savanahlove10@yahoo.com
i guess i can relate to you
wait how old are you by the way? haha
if yall dont have transportation because your too young to drivve or just havent gotten your liscense then your too young to worry about it.
i would just go separate ways, youll both find someone new
if you just dont have a car then yea id make the trip.
If you are really in love, you will find a way to cope.
Else end it.
How do I deal with my boyfriend's competitive and snotty female friend?
I would like to be friends with her, but her digging comments make it difficult. What's the best way to deal with her? How do I deal with my boyfriend's competitive and snotty female friend?
Whatever you do, don't whinge about her to him!
Be nice as pie to her, be the bigger person, make sure that everyone knows that she's the one with all the hostility.
She's most definately jealous of the fact that you get to sleep with him. If you get fed up of her, subtley remind her of that fact.How do I deal with my boyfriend's competitive and snotty female friend?
That happened to me. Thankfully he doesn't spend a lot of time with her outside of school She basically ignored me when we were all together. He told me that one time, she told him that she doesn't get along with girls. Lol, go figure.... *sarcasm*
Anyways, I think that you should talk to your boyfriend about your feelings. I actually told him that I thought she liked him. He reassured me that he would never be interested in her, and also that she is flirty with other guys too ';that's how she is';.
After this talk, I relaxed a bit. I never forced the friendship and we're not really friends now. I barely ever see her because me and my bf go to separate universities.
Anyways maybe in your case your bf would agree to meet with you without her. Or some other compromise. He may also help you and tell you how to deal with her. He may also tell you why he's friends with her.. that may help you too. Have a talk with him!
I suggest avoiding drama at all costs. It could only worsen a situation. I suppose it's possible to talk to her about why you feel the way you do, but leave that as a last resort.
Dear April,
It sounds as though your boyfriend's friend is ';threatened by the new woman'; in his life, that being you. I don't envy your position one bit. Given her penchant for throwing jabs at you, I am impressed that you have kept your cool to date.
Unfortunately, women are the worst offenders when it comes to ';playing nice'; outside of our core, trusted group. Even in business you will find this to be the case. (Even on Sex in the City, it was the case.)
1. Look her straight in the eye, stopping what you are doing when she throws that barb. Say nothing what so ever. Your body language and the blank look on your face will shout volumes. Your confident look should make her feel belittled, which is what her initital intent was for you - it's right back at her!
2. If it is not possible to stop in your tracks, then politely (but firmly) say, ';I'm sorry, I'm certain you were trying to make a point. You have my full attention now.'; You have said, without saying, ';You don't matter and therefore I wasn't paying attention.';
This stops her for the moment, you have not made any assumptions about her intent -- it leaves the door wide open for her to ';clarify her position/dig/barb'; and opens the door for your boyfriend to excuse her from the activity.
The most important thing to do is RISE ABOVE this nonsense and let your boyfriend see what she is made of. Never, never spell it out to him or let on that you know what her intents are. You will lose ground and look petty.
I swear, the blank (you are a Martian, aren't you?) look works the best. You will be the smartest girl in the world if you employ these tactics and she will either respect your position in the relationship or move on.
Good luck
I had a situation something like this...my husband had a female friend. once i told them i didnt think they should be alone together and she came at me trying to fight and I just explained to her how I felt about it. she had attitude for awhile but i kept insisting that we could be friends and so could they but we were married and there needed to be some boundaries. her and i hung around after that and we actually got along pretty well I think she realized that i wasnt afraid of her and treating me that way just wouldn't fly.
Dont allow her to treat u in any manner that does not appeal to u because frankly only u can dictate the way another person treats u, u can simply explain the fact that u dont appreciate the way she responds to u and if it persists then u put that ***** in her place lol sorry!!!! O and tell ur boyfriend about his friend!!! that should be his problem not urs!!!!
Tell your boyfriend not to be her friend anymore. I quit being friends with a guy friend of mine b/c his girlfriend was jealous of me. Of course it was my decision but it's better than having drama all the time.
put her in her place girlfriend
Tell her to **** off thats what my gf did with two diff girls that kept on getting on my nerves
Whatever you do, don't whinge about her to him!
Be nice as pie to her, be the bigger person, make sure that everyone knows that she's the one with all the hostility.
She's most definately jealous of the fact that you get to sleep with him. If you get fed up of her, subtley remind her of that fact.How do I deal with my boyfriend's competitive and snotty female friend?
That happened to me. Thankfully he doesn't spend a lot of time with her outside of school She basically ignored me when we were all together. He told me that one time, she told him that she doesn't get along with girls. Lol, go figure.... *sarcasm*
Anyways, I think that you should talk to your boyfriend about your feelings. I actually told him that I thought she liked him. He reassured me that he would never be interested in her, and also that she is flirty with other guys too ';that's how she is';.
After this talk, I relaxed a bit. I never forced the friendship and we're not really friends now. I barely ever see her because me and my bf go to separate universities.
Anyways maybe in your case your bf would agree to meet with you without her. Or some other compromise. He may also help you and tell you how to deal with her. He may also tell you why he's friends with her.. that may help you too. Have a talk with him!
I suggest avoiding drama at all costs. It could only worsen a situation. I suppose it's possible to talk to her about why you feel the way you do, but leave that as a last resort.
Dear April,
It sounds as though your boyfriend's friend is ';threatened by the new woman'; in his life, that being you. I don't envy your position one bit. Given her penchant for throwing jabs at you, I am impressed that you have kept your cool to date.
Unfortunately, women are the worst offenders when it comes to ';playing nice'; outside of our core, trusted group. Even in business you will find this to be the case. (Even on Sex in the City, it was the case.)
1. Look her straight in the eye, stopping what you are doing when she throws that barb. Say nothing what so ever. Your body language and the blank look on your face will shout volumes. Your confident look should make her feel belittled, which is what her initital intent was for you - it's right back at her!
2. If it is not possible to stop in your tracks, then politely (but firmly) say, ';I'm sorry, I'm certain you were trying to make a point. You have my full attention now.'; You have said, without saying, ';You don't matter and therefore I wasn't paying attention.';
This stops her for the moment, you have not made any assumptions about her intent -- it leaves the door wide open for her to ';clarify her position/dig/barb'; and opens the door for your boyfriend to excuse her from the activity.
The most important thing to do is RISE ABOVE this nonsense and let your boyfriend see what she is made of. Never, never spell it out to him or let on that you know what her intents are. You will lose ground and look petty.
I swear, the blank (you are a Martian, aren't you?) look works the best. You will be the smartest girl in the world if you employ these tactics and she will either respect your position in the relationship or move on.
Good luck
I had a situation something like this...my husband had a female friend. once i told them i didnt think they should be alone together and she came at me trying to fight and I just explained to her how I felt about it. she had attitude for awhile but i kept insisting that we could be friends and so could they but we were married and there needed to be some boundaries. her and i hung around after that and we actually got along pretty well I think she realized that i wasnt afraid of her and treating me that way just wouldn't fly.
Dont allow her to treat u in any manner that does not appeal to u because frankly only u can dictate the way another person treats u, u can simply explain the fact that u dont appreciate the way she responds to u and if it persists then u put that ***** in her place lol sorry!!!! O and tell ur boyfriend about his friend!!! that should be his problem not urs!!!!
Tell your boyfriend not to be her friend anymore. I quit being friends with a guy friend of mine b/c his girlfriend was jealous of me. Of course it was my decision but it's better than having drama all the time.
put her in her place girlfriend
Tell her to **** off thats what my gf did with two diff girls that kept on getting on my nerves
How to deal with a boyfriend who is mostly busy at work?
we have wonderful time when we are together....but that is hardly once a week....He is in computer related field.
.Is it ok?? if not... how would you deal with it?How to deal with a boyfriend who is mostly busy at work?
He is not your husband he is your boyfriend. If he is busy at work you should be pleased that he is trying to get ahead. Keep yourself busy with other activities, get your own job, volunteer or go back to school. If that doesn't work for you then get a boyfriend that isn't working and support him.
.Is it ok?? if not... how would you deal with it?How to deal with a boyfriend who is mostly busy at work?
He is not your husband he is your boyfriend. If he is busy at work you should be pleased that he is trying to get ahead. Keep yourself busy with other activities, get your own job, volunteer or go back to school. If that doesn't work for you then get a boyfriend that isn't working and support him.
How to deal with my boyfriend working with his ex?
I been in a LD relationship for 5 months now and things are great. My boyfriend and I manage to see each other every weekend although we live 7 hours away. The only problem is that he works with his ex girlfriend. I`m trying to not make it a big deal, but although he is completely over her and is just nice to remain professional, she often calls him and tries to act like they're best friends. I'm trying to be mature, but it bugs me. We discussed it, but until he finds a another job, he has no choice but to work there. What should I do?How to deal with my boyfriend working with his ex?
he has to find another job for you to trust him?? that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.How to deal with my boyfriend working with his ex?
its a matter of trust!
who you gonna trust?
who is the control freak in this relationship? nah, just joking, but he shouldnt be changing jobs and you both ought to be discussing feelings about tis situation.?
still a matater of trust, respect, loyalty,faith
a matter of faith!
there is a reason she is an ex....relax and trust him
he has to find another job for you to trust him?? that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.How to deal with my boyfriend working with his ex?
its a matter of trust!
who you gonna trust?
who is the control freak in this relationship? nah, just joking, but he shouldnt be changing jobs and you both ought to be discussing feelings about tis situation.?
still a matater of trust, respect, loyalty,faith
a matter of faith!
there is a reason she is an ex....relax and trust him
How to deal with a boyfriend who is mostly busy at work?
He likes me ... and we have wonderful time when we are together....but that is almost only once a week.....Is it ok?? if not... how would you deal with it? He is in computer related field.How to deal with a boyfriend who is mostly busy at work?
I'm in a computer related field too and I tell you, it gets busy. There are times I work overnight. We might not get done with an emergency for a long time, the women married to my co-workers complain a lot. Also, with the way the economy is going, let him keep his mind on his work so he doesn't lose his job. Make the most of the time you have with him because he's not having any picnics when he is at work.
Support him, If you are understanding and fun to be with you can motivate him to find more time to be with you and less at work.How to deal with a boyfriend who is mostly busy at work?
i understand how that is ... once a week often doesn't happen for us ... but the thing is that ... obviously things are worth while since you guys are together in such circumstances ... however, i think i makes a couple closer don't you think? because when you guys do see each other ... it's like a fantasy ... so lovely ... it'll make you guys stronger ... and hopefully you'll realize soon if its worth the wait for you ...
I think you are headed for a bad end. The guy is only your boyfriend now, and he is really not spending much time with you. Imagine if you get married. He will probably spend even less time with you.
I hate to say all that, but I think it is true.
ask him to find some time for you too!!
I'm in a computer related field too and I tell you, it gets busy. There are times I work overnight. We might not get done with an emergency for a long time, the women married to my co-workers complain a lot. Also, with the way the economy is going, let him keep his mind on his work so he doesn't lose his job. Make the most of the time you have with him because he's not having any picnics when he is at work.
Support him, If you are understanding and fun to be with you can motivate him to find more time to be with you and less at work.How to deal with a boyfriend who is mostly busy at work?
i understand how that is ... once a week often doesn't happen for us ... but the thing is that ... obviously things are worth while since you guys are together in such circumstances ... however, i think i makes a couple closer don't you think? because when you guys do see each other ... it's like a fantasy ... so lovely ... it'll make you guys stronger ... and hopefully you'll realize soon if its worth the wait for you ...
I think you are headed for a bad end. The guy is only your boyfriend now, and he is really not spending much time with you. Imagine if you get married. He will probably spend even less time with you.
I hate to say all that, but I think it is true.
ask him to find some time for you too!!
How to deal with over jealous boyfriends.?
Tips and pointers please.How to deal with over jealous boyfriends.?
It really depends on how the jealousy manifests itself in your relationship. If he is verbally telling you not to hang out your friends, guy friends that you've known for years or family then that's a bad sign. If he yells at you, insults you, takes your things (cellphone/wallet) or calls your cellphone every 5 minutes then it's best to break it off before he gets abusive. If he quietly tells you that you always seem too busy to hang out with him or that you spend an awful lot of time with your ex then he's isn't jealous...you're just a bad person. I'm assuming that because you came on here asking that he's the first kind. If you really like him them I would talk to him first. Be calm and assertive and tell him ';You're very controlling and if it doesn't stop then I won't see you anymore'; When someone tries to keep you from your family, best friends, lies to you, insults you or makes you feel uncomfortable or bad about yourself; it's best to call it quits before it gets ugly. Good Luck:)How to deal with over jealous boyfriends.?
my ex never trusted me and stopped me from spending time with my guy and girl mates eventually by wanting to spend so much time with me and complaining if i did something without him. a boy mate and he'd be jealous and if i was having a girls night in he would say it was exist and why couldnt the boys come round. it all got so much and i couldnt see it until i didnt see him for three weeks in th summer and realised how trapped i'd been. I ended it and we're ok friends no but he still likes me but realises he can no longer be possesive.
hope this helps.
help on my question please?
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i agree with you i think if a guy or this boy is jealous then he must really care for you because thats saying 1.he dosen't want anything to happen to you
2. he likes you a lot or loves you
3. he wants make your relationship work
he is a keeper girl trust me
sincerly MZ.DORA
I wish my boyfriend got jealous easily. It means you love that person so much that you want to make sure no one else can have them. I try'd so hard to make him jealous... telling him im hanging with all these guys.... and how abusive they were towards me, HE DIDNT GIVE A ****!
YOU BETTER BE GLAD YOU HAVE A GUY THAT CARES LIKE THAT.
haha oh man this is not good. either u better set his *** right and make sure he knows that u wont mess up. and YOU have to prove to him by not affiliating with other guys..if he's still jeallous that means he doesnt trust you and its BYE BYE to him girl!
Talk to him in a calm and polite manner to try and find out what exactly bothers him so much. If it seems like he wants to control your every move then you should stop seeing him.
Break up with them. Seriously, they won't change. You might not like it, but it's better than things getting violent.
It really depends on how the jealousy manifests itself in your relationship. If he is verbally telling you not to hang out your friends, guy friends that you've known for years or family then that's a bad sign. If he yells at you, insults you, takes your things (cellphone/wallet) or calls your cellphone every 5 minutes then it's best to break it off before he gets abusive. If he quietly tells you that you always seem too busy to hang out with him or that you spend an awful lot of time with your ex then he's isn't jealous...you're just a bad person. I'm assuming that because you came on here asking that he's the first kind. If you really like him them I would talk to him first. Be calm and assertive and tell him ';You're very controlling and if it doesn't stop then I won't see you anymore'; When someone tries to keep you from your family, best friends, lies to you, insults you or makes you feel uncomfortable or bad about yourself; it's best to call it quits before it gets ugly. Good Luck:)How to deal with over jealous boyfriends.?
my ex never trusted me and stopped me from spending time with my guy and girl mates eventually by wanting to spend so much time with me and complaining if i did something without him. a boy mate and he'd be jealous and if i was having a girls night in he would say it was exist and why couldnt the boys come round. it all got so much and i couldnt see it until i didnt see him for three weeks in th summer and realised how trapped i'd been. I ended it and we're ok friends no but he still likes me but realises he can no longer be possesive.
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i agree with you i think if a guy or this boy is jealous then he must really care for you because thats saying 1.he dosen't want anything to happen to you
2. he likes you a lot or loves you
3. he wants make your relationship work
he is a keeper girl trust me
sincerly MZ.DORA
I wish my boyfriend got jealous easily. It means you love that person so much that you want to make sure no one else can have them. I try'd so hard to make him jealous... telling him im hanging with all these guys.... and how abusive they were towards me, HE DIDNT GIVE A ****!
YOU BETTER BE GLAD YOU HAVE A GUY THAT CARES LIKE THAT.
haha oh man this is not good. either u better set his *** right and make sure he knows that u wont mess up. and YOU have to prove to him by not affiliating with other guys..if he's still jeallous that means he doesnt trust you and its BYE BYE to him girl!
Talk to him in a calm and polite manner to try and find out what exactly bothers him so much. If it seems like he wants to control your every move then you should stop seeing him.
Break up with them. Seriously, they won't change. You might not like it, but it's better than things getting violent.
How to deal with werid boyfriends family????
ok my boyfriends family is really messed up! i cant seem to get over how werid they are well me and my boyfriend are haveing a baby, and i recently found out that there grandma would give every grandchild an enema everytime they went out to her house. She sounded very proud to tell me '; IVE GIVEN ALL OF MY GRANDCHILDERN MANY ENEMAS'; and my boyfriend denies it to the fullest and i think his parents dont tell me because they dont want to embarasse him, but she used to also given them out for punishmental reason as well as locking them up stiars at her house. i cant get over why he lies and why she'd do that to them why do you think? and he gets mad when i say i dont want our baby going over there ';IT's none of your business how my grandmother used to do things with us';. why would he take her side? also whenever im constipated he tried to get me to let his grandma give me and enema why? please anwser all these ?'s!!! helpHow to deal with werid boyfriends family????
its ok just go w/ the flow and ur be fine, don't worry about his famliy cause u might breck up w/ him bacause of it and thats bad if u really like him, but if hes lik his family get rid of him.How to deal with werid boyfriends family????
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Jeez, that's messed up, in fact it sounds like borderline child/sex abuse. I don't blame you for not wanting to leave your child alone with your Grandmother, nor for being reluctant to go thorugh something like that yourself... If I were you I'd keep me and my child away from Grandma at all costs, even if it meant losing my boyfriend because of it...
wow! it looks like really weird. i don't know to tell why this kind of behavior, it doesn't seem to be part of some kind of 'way to raise kids' or something. if i was u, i would have demand answers. and before the kid is born. then, of coerce, don't send the kid alone in there and guard it all of the time. wow! u must be brave!! do u have Ur family involved? if u feel like, write me a mail.
Well i wouldnt ever go to his house! but means your having a baby you have to let them see it! My family is really messed up! my grandpa is also my uncle and my uncle is also my cousin and my aunt's oldest son is known as her little brother so she is an aunt and a grandma! but what is ENEMAS?????? that just sounds weird! but i really dont know what to tell you!
Congratulations on the baby! As a mother of two, the best advice I can give you is to buy earplugs. Never you mind all of the unwanted advice of others. You do what is comfortable for you in accordance with your doctors orders.
Personally, I have never heard of giving an enema to a child unless the child was severely constipated. And in that case, I don't believe they do pediatric enemas.
Dealing with the in laws is always a tricky situation to be in. I understand your need for answers, but what you may consider to be weird, his family may consider it to be a tradition of some sort.
You had mentioned that the grandmother does this out of punishment??? Is this known as a fact?
If your boyfriend gets defensive about the situation, perhaps it is because he considers it to be normal.
If you truly are uncomfortable with your child being around this grandmother, I suggest not leaving your child unattended with her. Be sure that you or the babies father are always in it's presence when dear old grandma is around.
Out of my own experience with my children, it's better to not argue about it. My husband is of a different culture than I. It posed a problem when our children were born with his family wanting to do things like give the baby tea, and use cooking oil as a baby oil, putting Vaseline in their hair. I did;t support any of these things and for that reason, my children did not start going to ';sleepovers'; and grandmas house until they were old enough to tel me what happened.
I know it's hard right now, but since the baby is not yet here, there really isn't anything much you can do about it. And to tell you the truth, it's probably not worth arguing about later. Just know that this is your child, and any decisions made must go threw you...
Good luck.
if u REALLY LOVE him, then accept who he is.
grandparents are older generation and that's what things used to be like. don't worry your boyfriend is probably embarrassed to know what his gran mother used to do. it is illegal for any one to give an enema if they are not a doc or nurse. at the end of the day it is your baby and no-one elses the baby will rely on you to keep it safe, if you are doubting your boyfriend now be careful mite just get worse, but then again could get better. give it time and see.
its ok just go w/ the flow and ur be fine, don't worry about his famliy cause u might breck up w/ him bacause of it and thats bad if u really like him, but if hes lik his family get rid of him.How to deal with werid boyfriends family????
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Jeez, that's messed up, in fact it sounds like borderline child/sex abuse. I don't blame you for not wanting to leave your child alone with your Grandmother, nor for being reluctant to go thorugh something like that yourself... If I were you I'd keep me and my child away from Grandma at all costs, even if it meant losing my boyfriend because of it...
wow! it looks like really weird. i don't know to tell why this kind of behavior, it doesn't seem to be part of some kind of 'way to raise kids' or something. if i was u, i would have demand answers. and before the kid is born. then, of coerce, don't send the kid alone in there and guard it all of the time. wow! u must be brave!! do u have Ur family involved? if u feel like, write me a mail.
Well i wouldnt ever go to his house! but means your having a baby you have to let them see it! My family is really messed up! my grandpa is also my uncle and my uncle is also my cousin and my aunt's oldest son is known as her little brother so she is an aunt and a grandma! but what is ENEMAS?????? that just sounds weird! but i really dont know what to tell you!
Congratulations on the baby! As a mother of two, the best advice I can give you is to buy earplugs. Never you mind all of the unwanted advice of others. You do what is comfortable for you in accordance with your doctors orders.
Personally, I have never heard of giving an enema to a child unless the child was severely constipated. And in that case, I don't believe they do pediatric enemas.
Dealing with the in laws is always a tricky situation to be in. I understand your need for answers, but what you may consider to be weird, his family may consider it to be a tradition of some sort.
You had mentioned that the grandmother does this out of punishment??? Is this known as a fact?
If your boyfriend gets defensive about the situation, perhaps it is because he considers it to be normal.
If you truly are uncomfortable with your child being around this grandmother, I suggest not leaving your child unattended with her. Be sure that you or the babies father are always in it's presence when dear old grandma is around.
Out of my own experience with my children, it's better to not argue about it. My husband is of a different culture than I. It posed a problem when our children were born with his family wanting to do things like give the baby tea, and use cooking oil as a baby oil, putting Vaseline in their hair. I did;t support any of these things and for that reason, my children did not start going to ';sleepovers'; and grandmas house until they were old enough to tel me what happened.
I know it's hard right now, but since the baby is not yet here, there really isn't anything much you can do about it. And to tell you the truth, it's probably not worth arguing about later. Just know that this is your child, and any decisions made must go threw you...
Good luck.
if u REALLY LOVE him, then accept who he is.
grandparents are older generation and that's what things used to be like. don't worry your boyfriend is probably embarrassed to know what his gran mother used to do. it is illegal for any one to give an enema if they are not a doc or nurse. at the end of the day it is your baby and no-one elses the baby will rely on you to keep it safe, if you are doubting your boyfriend now be careful mite just get worse, but then again could get better. give it time and see.
How to go about dealing with boyfriends BESTFRIEND?
My boyfriends best friend just moved back to TX from FL. He moved into my boyfriends house and its the first time I've met him. It has taken a bit of the lime light away from me but I dont mind much. I really rather get in good with his bestfriend so when he starts to go out and look for a gf he respects me enough not to try and pressure my bf to cheat.
I'm always really nice say hi and bye. When I was first going to meet him I was going to my bfs and we both recently picked up the habit to eat pickles and doritos. Well not wanting to exclude his bestfriend i brough him some too! When I got there though my bf didnt introduce us his friend had to introduce himself and my bf took the extra pickle and doritos without telling his friend. When I asked him why he didnt tell his friend about the food he said more for us.Then he told his friend to leave. I kinda get the feeling my bf doesnt want me and his bestfriend to get too cool? Oh %26amp; all my girlfriends have boyfriends!
Ur opinions?How to go about dealing with boyfriends BESTFRIEND?
Maybe he knows his friend well enough not to trust him around you. Why dont you ask him what the deal is.How to go about dealing with boyfriends BESTFRIEND?
Sounds like your boyfriend is really mean to his friend. I like my girlfriend to be friends with my friends because then I can hang out with all of them, and everyone is happy! That way I don't have to choose.
I would confront your b/f about it. Maybe ask him why he doesn't want you to get to know his friend.
Let dudes be DUDES and thats ALLL I'mma gonna say
I'm always really nice say hi and bye. When I was first going to meet him I was going to my bfs and we both recently picked up the habit to eat pickles and doritos. Well not wanting to exclude his bestfriend i brough him some too! When I got there though my bf didnt introduce us his friend had to introduce himself and my bf took the extra pickle and doritos without telling his friend. When I asked him why he didnt tell his friend about the food he said more for us.Then he told his friend to leave. I kinda get the feeling my bf doesnt want me and his bestfriend to get too cool? Oh %26amp; all my girlfriends have boyfriends!
Ur opinions?How to go about dealing with boyfriends BESTFRIEND?
Maybe he knows his friend well enough not to trust him around you. Why dont you ask him what the deal is.How to go about dealing with boyfriends BESTFRIEND?
Sounds like your boyfriend is really mean to his friend. I like my girlfriend to be friends with my friends because then I can hang out with all of them, and everyone is happy! That way I don't have to choose.
I would confront your b/f about it. Maybe ask him why he doesn't want you to get to know his friend.
Let dudes be DUDES and thats ALLL I'mma gonna say
How do I deal when my boyfriend doesn`t explain why he`s mad at me?
When my boyfriends upset with me he doesn`t respond to my texts and when I see him he has no expression and is very quiet. When things are great it`s the complete opposite. So I know when he`s mad... just not why he`s mad.How do I deal when my boyfriend doesn`t explain why he`s mad at me?
Ever thought that maybe it has nothing to do with you but perhaps a teacher or a coach or someone in his family ? when guys have things on their minds , rarely do they confess to a woman what it is. Maybe he wanted to do something and was not allowed or he has to work someplace where the boss is giving him hell. It could be anything so just be there and do not ask him anymore, do not text him , that is considered to be nagging and guys hate that. But sooner or later, i am sure that if it is you , he will come out and say it or have you ever considered that people are spreading lies about you to him and he is buying it?Perhaps he has cheated on you and now regrets it . You are not going to get it out of him so just let him decide when and or if he wants to talk about it with you. Just be patient and wait, that is about all i can say here.How do I deal when my boyfriend doesn`t explain why he`s mad at me?
dont make him upset it really make him bad....but if u come across this situation just dont text him more give him some time to cool down then u talk patiently and try to make him explain y he was upset and try to correct urself and him too if he did have one
It may be, He's taking out his anger and frustration out on you, Which is not fair. Try to talk to him and make his day better.
Ever thought that maybe it has nothing to do with you but perhaps a teacher or a coach or someone in his family ? when guys have things on their minds , rarely do they confess to a woman what it is. Maybe he wanted to do something and was not allowed or he has to work someplace where the boss is giving him hell. It could be anything so just be there and do not ask him anymore, do not text him , that is considered to be nagging and guys hate that. But sooner or later, i am sure that if it is you , he will come out and say it or have you ever considered that people are spreading lies about you to him and he is buying it?Perhaps he has cheated on you and now regrets it . You are not going to get it out of him so just let him decide when and or if he wants to talk about it with you. Just be patient and wait, that is about all i can say here.How do I deal when my boyfriend doesn`t explain why he`s mad at me?
dont make him upset it really make him bad....but if u come across this situation just dont text him more give him some time to cool down then u talk patiently and try to make him explain y he was upset and try to correct urself and him too if he did have one
It may be, He's taking out his anger and frustration out on you, Which is not fair. Try to talk to him and make his day better.
How to deal with friend/boyfriends issues?
My friend told my other friend that she liked this one boy! Then that friend said that she liked him to but the other girl was already going out with him! At lunch at school my freind asked my other freinds boyfriend out and he said yes! Now she is blaming it all on my and my other friends! She is also saying it isnt my fault that he likes me and not her! I told her that that was really low and so now we arent friends ANYMORE! She wants to be my friend again but i said no! So i had my other friends back through the whole thing and so now we r gonna tell EVERY1 everything and then they wont like her. And how do we know that she isnt gonna do this to me b/c she USED to be my best friend.How to deal with friend/boyfriends issues?
i dont really get what u mean but anyway, why would u wana tell everybody about what she did?
r u gona get any benefit from it? satisfaction, yes. but anythin in return...? i dont think so.
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i dont really get what u mean but anyway, why would u wana tell everybody about what she did?
r u gona get any benefit from it? satisfaction, yes. but anythin in return...? i dont think so.
IDK but mayb u should think about it wisely before doin it.
How to deal when your boyfriend just had a baby by his ex-girlfriend?
heres the deal my boyfriend and I hve been together for about 3 months and his baby's mother was pregnant at the time she broke up with him we got together everything was so good despite the drama that she caused all the time, he didnt have anything to do with her becuse all the lies she made up about him and myself he was just going to go over to her house once the baby is born well...the baby has been born and its been here for about a week, and i feel soo left out of the picture i understand he has a responsiblity to take care of but its weird when u go from being number 1 on his priorty to 2nd and he stays at his ex girlfriends house all the time now..he didnt even call me in the morning after he woke up he went straight to her house i feel so bad and i'm about ready to give him up but i dont want to because i love him. i feel like he might forget about me complety and they may get back together because all the time he spends over there....please give me some advicee!!How to deal when your boyfriend just had a baby by his ex-girlfriend?
You have to understand that he is a parent now. yes, he might be going over to his ex's house now, but I thinkn it is just to help take care of his new born child. Dont jump to conclusions about what he is doing over there. I personally think he is over there doing his duty as a father. talk to him about what youre thinkning, he'll listen.How to deal when your boyfriend just had a baby by his ex-girlfriend?
My sister had the same issue. You are just going to have to be there for him
Set some limits and if he cant handle that let go of him no matter what!
You could offer to let him bring the baby your place. but it really sounds like you are just his women, while she was having her fits.
Therefore stop calling him, see what happens.
Forget him. They have too much in common for you to be a consideration for him. You may think you love him. But that 'love' will wear very thin after time. Are you really ready to waste your life on someone who chooses to be with another?
Get out and ENJOY!!!
Well he has a child now so you have to respect that. Eventhough it may hurt you to know that he is spending his time with his child, it does not nessecarily mean that he is still sleeping with his ex-girlfriend. Now, if you find out that he is still sleeping with his ex-girlfriend, then you need to leave him alone and move on. You only have 3 months together, it won't hurt that much.
Oh Honey, this is a nasty situation.
His first priority should be his child, of course. But, he is doesn't even seem to be making you No. 2.
Why does he need to stay at his ex's house? Can't he take care of the baby in his own home when it's his turn?
You have to face the reality that playing ';happy family'; may well mean he is on his way back to being with his ex and you will be out in the cold. You really need to talk to him about this is in a calm manner. Don't start accusing him of anything or badmouth his child's mother. Just tell him you are feeling insecure and see how he deals with that. If he gets defensive, then he's likely already lost to you. If he is willing to consider your feelings and find a common ground so you can be included in his life once more and in the baby's life, then it's worth working out.
Good luck. You will need it.
I feel your pain however I am going to be realistic. I had a family member whom lived w/ her man and everything was fantastic. Suddenly he finds out that his ex was pregnant and once the baby was born all he could do was fall in love with the baby which is not a bad thing at all but he decided one day to the next to leave my cousin and marry this girl due to the fact he had his own child. Now seriously if this happens he never loved you and it wasnt for you their is nothing wrong with you . However we cannot go into negative conclusions, just realize that this is part of his world now and it will conflict a little w/you usual time. Just as having children will change your life forever.
Be a support system w/your mate and keep communicating. Even if the ex calls to talk to him be polite and always positive. Your mate is just going through a new experience and needs time but he still loves you and just keep communicating.
If you see weird changes after a month, then have a serious heart to heart and let him know you understand how he feels w/his baby and your supportive however, spending the night their and ignoring you is not tolerated.
Step back and let him have the opportunity to make a family with the mother of his child and his new baby. You really do not want to be part of this.
Although you love this man this second, when a short amount of time passes, you will love the next man even more. It is strange about love. It is really intense and then it dissolves. Let this one go and do some good deeds this year at Christmas.
This is what happens when you have a boyfriend with a baby on the way. You need to get out now before you spend any more time and energy in this relationship. Your boyfriend's baby is young and need both his parents. When a man has a baby this young, the parents need to try and work things out and they can if they really want to. You're going to always be second for at least the next 18 years. You might be in love with this man, but he's in no position to have that luxury right now. He can't afford child support payments and a girlfriend. It may hurt not having him in your life now, but that's nothing compared to all the drama, name calling, rejection, insults, and hurt that'll come your way if you try to continue seeing this man. The best thing you can do for yourself, is to get this man completely out of your life and move on.
You have to understand that he is a parent now. yes, he might be going over to his ex's house now, but I thinkn it is just to help take care of his new born child. Dont jump to conclusions about what he is doing over there. I personally think he is over there doing his duty as a father. talk to him about what youre thinkning, he'll listen.How to deal when your boyfriend just had a baby by his ex-girlfriend?
My sister had the same issue. You are just going to have to be there for him
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Set some limits and if he cant handle that let go of him no matter what!
You could offer to let him bring the baby your place. but it really sounds like you are just his women, while she was having her fits.
Therefore stop calling him, see what happens.
Forget him. They have too much in common for you to be a consideration for him. You may think you love him. But that 'love' will wear very thin after time. Are you really ready to waste your life on someone who chooses to be with another?
Get out and ENJOY!!!
Well he has a child now so you have to respect that. Eventhough it may hurt you to know that he is spending his time with his child, it does not nessecarily mean that he is still sleeping with his ex-girlfriend. Now, if you find out that he is still sleeping with his ex-girlfriend, then you need to leave him alone and move on. You only have 3 months together, it won't hurt that much.
Oh Honey, this is a nasty situation.
His first priority should be his child, of course. But, he is doesn't even seem to be making you No. 2.
Why does he need to stay at his ex's house? Can't he take care of the baby in his own home when it's his turn?
You have to face the reality that playing ';happy family'; may well mean he is on his way back to being with his ex and you will be out in the cold. You really need to talk to him about this is in a calm manner. Don't start accusing him of anything or badmouth his child's mother. Just tell him you are feeling insecure and see how he deals with that. If he gets defensive, then he's likely already lost to you. If he is willing to consider your feelings and find a common ground so you can be included in his life once more and in the baby's life, then it's worth working out.
Good luck. You will need it.
I feel your pain however I am going to be realistic. I had a family member whom lived w/ her man and everything was fantastic. Suddenly he finds out that his ex was pregnant and once the baby was born all he could do was fall in love with the baby which is not a bad thing at all but he decided one day to the next to leave my cousin and marry this girl due to the fact he had his own child. Now seriously if this happens he never loved you and it wasnt for you their is nothing wrong with you . However we cannot go into negative conclusions, just realize that this is part of his world now and it will conflict a little w/you usual time. Just as having children will change your life forever.
Be a support system w/your mate and keep communicating. Even if the ex calls to talk to him be polite and always positive. Your mate is just going through a new experience and needs time but he still loves you and just keep communicating.
If you see weird changes after a month, then have a serious heart to heart and let him know you understand how he feels w/his baby and your supportive however, spending the night their and ignoring you is not tolerated.
Step back and let him have the opportunity to make a family with the mother of his child and his new baby. You really do not want to be part of this.
Although you love this man this second, when a short amount of time passes, you will love the next man even more. It is strange about love. It is really intense and then it dissolves. Let this one go and do some good deeds this year at Christmas.
This is what happens when you have a boyfriend with a baby on the way. You need to get out now before you spend any more time and energy in this relationship. Your boyfriend's baby is young and need both his parents. When a man has a baby this young, the parents need to try and work things out and they can if they really want to. You're going to always be second for at least the next 18 years. You might be in love with this man, but he's in no position to have that luxury right now. He can't afford child support payments and a girlfriend. It may hurt not having him in your life now, but that's nothing compared to all the drama, name calling, rejection, insults, and hurt that'll come your way if you try to continue seeing this man. The best thing you can do for yourself, is to get this man completely out of your life and move on.
How do I deal with my sister bring prettier than me?
I don't think I'm ugly. I actually quite like my face. It's my body. My sister has HUGE boobs. Like... DD boobs. And she wears low cut shirts. She has a pretty flat stomach also. Tan, big lips, long hair. She is verry pretty..... she looks like your typical girl faces that guys look for. We both have thin hair, but I take care of mine. She doesn't, so it's kind of thinning in the back. I don't want her face. It looks too ';sexy'; for something I would be jealous of. I like my ';cute'; ';innocent'; face. I have long dark hair, pale, big eyes, smaller lips than my sisters but I wouldn't say ';thin';. I'm skinny. I only weigh 100lbs 5'3. My sister weighs 120-130lbs but it's boob and musle 5'4. My boobs are no bigger than a B cup. All through my middle school everyone made fun of me and asking if I was adopted. I havnt had a real boyfriend through out my whole life. I'm always afraid that when he meets my sister he'll leave me or wish he had her. I am just really sad and I don't know if I will ever get married or have a boyfriend in fear that he'll like my older sister more. What's the best way to deal with this? :(How do I deal with my sister bring prettier than me?
there might be some guys who prefer u to her.. maybe you can allow them to hang around for awhile and get over the initial ';wow'; factor of your sister and see how that goes.. some guys prefer companionship over being with the hot annoying chick. if shes high maintenance.. not that your sister's annoying, it's just that some guys would rather ';wife'; the plain girl so I've heard.How do I deal with my sister bring prettier than me?
I find family and sometimes even people i dont know will try to compare themselves with me.
either for looks or smarts.
it hurts for a person like me who love them for who they are and never take out my insecurities on them because i have none.
what you are doing is wrong.
i had people not even walk with me cause i look hot and guys call at me and not them.
what am i suposed to do?
dress down? alter myself and sit in the back just so they can feel secure?
I dont think so. I dont want people like that in my life they just bring you down and expect evil and distruction from them.
I had a sis who litterally get upset when i dress up she looks at me a burn. I began to hate her jelous guts and look hot to burn even more
Sounds like me and my 15 year old sister. I'm 19.
She has a boyfriend. I've never been on a date.
She has light brown eyes. Mine are dark brown.
She's thin with boobs and a butt. I'm fat with huge boobs and no butt.
But you know what, I found things that I have that she will never have. Like my dark and mysterious personality, and my confidence in myself.
So while she's going around questioning if something makes her look fat, I wear what I like and just don't care what others say.
Try that.
One thing you need to understand is that any man worth your time is one who'll fall for your mind/personality.
Any girl can get most guys to pay attention to them with big **** but guess what... that's all that guy will ever be after and once he's had his fill of those ****, he'll move onto another set.
Stop worrying about your looks and start working on your future. Study hard and plan for your career because if looks is all that matters to you then, my dear girl, you have no hope once you've flown the nest.
You need a self esteem. I'm sure when you find a guy that is right for you that he wouldn't think of your sister he would be greatfull that he has you. Everyone is beautiful and so are you. Don't miss out on life because of your sister's apperances.
A guy who loves you will love you for you.You got to trust that
this is something I really worry about my own two daughters.
Both have exotic and girl next door features. but my eldest has nicer lips, better hair, but she is also getting a bit chubbier, my younger one is thin and looks like she will always be no matter what she eats. she's adorable. wether she'll be tall, i don't now yet. but it looks like she might be. but her lips are thinner and her hair is thinner too.
but that's the thing...everyone's body changes. my eldest could get thinner and the little one could not grow to be so tall or be as sociable as her sister, but what if?
personally, you sound a lot like what guys, I know, are attracted to, however, it make take time for you to realize it, since if you both are still growing.
the other part is you may not know if she is jealous of you at all and if you both share your insecurities together, trust me she has her own, you may feel better that you have something in common. and could become closer.
but as of this moment it looks like you need to look at your features and wonder why you feel so insecure,believe me your tatas could grow bigger.
oh gosh, trust me you'll have guys look at you more if you let yourself not be hard on yourself and be confident with what you've got.
sweetie, middle school? everyone gets teased. i got teased for being bigger chested. kids just look to project their insecurities about others so they feel better. not a time to think about marriage, but believe some of the pretty girls i knew haven't gotten married because either they change or their expectations aren't realistic.
marriage is different than what you look like, marriage is about compatibility.
people like different things someone will like your look more than your sister because not everyone has identical taste. that's why they say beauty's in the eye of the beholder. but i know how you feel my sister's gorgeous she looks exactly like me but she's shorter and skinnier and younger and looks like a little fairy, i know she's prettier than me but i have some things that she doesn't have and i'm content with my looks.
there might be some guys who prefer u to her.. maybe you can allow them to hang around for awhile and get over the initial ';wow'; factor of your sister and see how that goes.. some guys prefer companionship over being with the hot annoying chick. if shes high maintenance.. not that your sister's annoying, it's just that some guys would rather ';wife'; the plain girl so I've heard.How do I deal with my sister bring prettier than me?
I find family and sometimes even people i dont know will try to compare themselves with me.
either for looks or smarts.
it hurts for a person like me who love them for who they are and never take out my insecurities on them because i have none.
what you are doing is wrong.
i had people not even walk with me cause i look hot and guys call at me and not them.
what am i suposed to do?
dress down? alter myself and sit in the back just so they can feel secure?
I dont think so. I dont want people like that in my life they just bring you down and expect evil and distruction from them.
I had a sis who litterally get upset when i dress up she looks at me a burn. I began to hate her jelous guts and look hot to burn even more
Sounds like me and my 15 year old sister. I'm 19.
She has a boyfriend. I've never been on a date.
She has light brown eyes. Mine are dark brown.
She's thin with boobs and a butt. I'm fat with huge boobs and no butt.
But you know what, I found things that I have that she will never have. Like my dark and mysterious personality, and my confidence in myself.
So while she's going around questioning if something makes her look fat, I wear what I like and just don't care what others say.
Try that.
One thing you need to understand is that any man worth your time is one who'll fall for your mind/personality.
Any girl can get most guys to pay attention to them with big **** but guess what... that's all that guy will ever be after and once he's had his fill of those ****, he'll move onto another set.
Stop worrying about your looks and start working on your future. Study hard and plan for your career because if looks is all that matters to you then, my dear girl, you have no hope once you've flown the nest.
You need a self esteem. I'm sure when you find a guy that is right for you that he wouldn't think of your sister he would be greatfull that he has you. Everyone is beautiful and so are you. Don't miss out on life because of your sister's apperances.
A guy who loves you will love you for you.You got to trust that
this is something I really worry about my own two daughters.
Both have exotic and girl next door features. but my eldest has nicer lips, better hair, but she is also getting a bit chubbier, my younger one is thin and looks like she will always be no matter what she eats. she's adorable. wether she'll be tall, i don't now yet. but it looks like she might be. but her lips are thinner and her hair is thinner too.
but that's the thing...everyone's body changes. my eldest could get thinner and the little one could not grow to be so tall or be as sociable as her sister, but what if?
personally, you sound a lot like what guys, I know, are attracted to, however, it make take time for you to realize it, since if you both are still growing.
the other part is you may not know if she is jealous of you at all and if you both share your insecurities together, trust me she has her own, you may feel better that you have something in common. and could become closer.
but as of this moment it looks like you need to look at your features and wonder why you feel so insecure,believe me your tatas could grow bigger.
oh gosh, trust me you'll have guys look at you more if you let yourself not be hard on yourself and be confident with what you've got.
sweetie, middle school? everyone gets teased. i got teased for being bigger chested. kids just look to project their insecurities about others so they feel better. not a time to think about marriage, but believe some of the pretty girls i knew haven't gotten married because either they change or their expectations aren't realistic.
marriage is different than what you look like, marriage is about compatibility.
people like different things someone will like your look more than your sister because not everyone has identical taste. that's why they say beauty's in the eye of the beholder. but i know how you feel my sister's gorgeous she looks exactly like me but she's shorter and skinnier and younger and looks like a little fairy, i know she's prettier than me but i have some things that she doesn't have and i'm content with my looks.
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