How can i deal with my boyfriends bad parenting, we dont have kids together but he has kids from a past relati?

how can i deal with my boyfriends bad parenting, we dont have kids together but he has kids from a past relationship, he never thinks they do anything wrong, and they r the worlds rudest kids i have ever seen. he never corrects them, and he thinks they are always right. i really cant deal with this it is starting to tare us apart, and i love this man and i do want to be with him, but im sick and tired of seeing, listening, smelling, hearing , and dealing with his rude *** kids.. is there anything that will help me with this issue, or should i just break it off completely?How can i deal with my boyfriends bad parenting, we dont have kids together but he has kids from a past relati?
They are his kids and they mean the world to him so it is unlikely that anything you say will be taken to heart. He won't believe you so I would say try to live with it if you can but if you can't then leave and find someone new.How can i deal with my boyfriends bad parenting, we dont have kids together but he has kids from a past relati?
There's absolutely nothing you can do to change his parenting style. I want you to imagine how your life would be if you have a child of your own and his children to deal with. They won't get any better, in fact normal teenagers sometimes turn into little monsters, and your life will be hell (been there). Your love for him will turn into dislike, etc. So think this relationship through carefully and consider moving on. Good Luck.
Move on. He's a father and they're his first responsibility. You can't force him to choose between you and them and really you have no right to interfere as they are not your kids. Mostly likely he will not listen to nor appreciate your parenting advice, esp if you don't have kids. You can try if you want to but you should prepare yourself for moving on.
First off........I feel very sorry for the badly trained kids.....they are the victims here......not you or him!


If they are his kids and he thinks they're perfect....not much you can do even though the kids are getting the dirty end of the stick here. Kids need and should have good training and upbringing, otherwise, they are the VICTIMS of dysfunctional parenting.


I'd call CPS on him and/or just get out since you can't do anything about it for now.


If you try to help his kids with adequate training, he will just undermine you anyway.........
I hate to say this but, you need to let him go. This will be a battle you will never win. Those are his kids. He will never see what you see. He will never correct them and you will always look like the bad guy. Walk away while you can. Good luck!
Yikes. THere really is nothing that will help you here... so leave asap!! Just think... you don't want this man to be the father of YOUR children do you??? No way.
The situation is not going to change and they are a package deal. Decisions, decisions...
he isn't likely to change, so you sure don't want to be the mother of his kids. get out of there.
record or video tape them when they are at their ';best'; and play it for him
Well it would understandably tear you apart and should. Two opposing parenting styles in a blended family would be a DISASTER and if you know and see this NOW before you consider marrying him then you still have time to get out!





Chances are he won't suddenly become a different sort of father and he'll be a similar parent if you two hard kids together too. Being compatable in this area is very important and you are lucky enough to see first hand the TYPE of parent he is. Most of us don't get to see that in advance. You can't change him now - so you decide your options.