How can I deal with my boyfriends soon to be ex-wife?

I've been seeing this guy for two months now and his soon-to-be ex wife will not leave him alone. She's a manipulative liar and very rarely lets him see his daughter, which he loves dearly! She's trying to piss me off and start things between us. I've tried biting my tongue up to this point and being respectful to her, but I'm about to break an go off on her.How can I deal with my boyfriends soon to be ex-wife?
I must say, I am impressed with your patient attitude, and I recomend you keep it up, if you go off on her then you give her satisfaction and the upper hand, and for the childs sake you must control your emotions, so be the adult and let her do and say what she wants, as you and your boy friend know better, and you know who you are as people so let it go, and she needs to also let it go, I think she is hurt and not over her divorce, so therefore she is taking out her anger on you, let her continue, she will eventually grow tired and bored with causing drama and go away. And in her eyes you are nothing more then her ex-husbands girl friend, and being that your not his wife, she has no respect for you, you are the new honey and in her mind, it is her who is still top dog, her attitude is one of control, in time this will stop. Theirs a old saying, dont poke the turd or it will stink! it sounds foolish but in many ways makes sense, so, I advise for the child and for your own self dignity, be the better person, and let it go.How can I deal with my boyfriends soon to be ex-wife?
you need to keep your cool no matter what. I know it's almost impossible but just remember, you have him, she doesn't. thats the best revenge. she knows it, thats why shes trying to bring you into it. don't stoop down to her level, it isnt worth it. I see that as being a future police report anyways, people like that talk about fighting and then when they get hit they call the police.


avoid that.





good luck with you too
You just don't. Part of being mature is you being able to accept this past, which he will be always dealing with. Plus, obviously you are dating him before he is divorced, which isn't good for him nor his daughter. Leave things with him to deal with.


Should you continue seeing him, you must know that his first family will always come first - and you need to be mature enough to deal with that.


Good luck.
I'm sorry, but if my husband was seeing some whore, I'd probably be a manipulative liar too, and I definitely wouldn't let him see my child. Remember, you are just the ';girlfriend';. Don't be surprised if he decides to work it out with his wife.
dignity, this the key word. Ask you boyfriend, he'll tell you what to do, and you'll feel free and comforted in your relationship.
Who are you to go off on her? She's his wife, while you're just his whore. Stay in your place, girlfriend!
Do not say a word! This is what she wants! Once you start a yelling match it will only become bad for you! She has a child remember this and you have her ex ! This child is the most important thing here and once you start yelling at her mom then this child will start pulling away from her dad and you and this is not good! Try an avoid her at all cost for now. She sounds as if she is blaming you for her bad marriage and shes trying to hold on to what control she has left once you start telling her off your on her level. Let the courts handle custody hire an attorney and let them handle this and for now please for your relationship with him and his daughter keep quite because if you don't some how she will turn it around on you and use it in court that you are unstable and unfit for her child to around. Just smile, and be good to her child always! Good Luck!!
u don't need to be respectful of her, she is not his mother. she is nobody to him and u now. just don't do it in front of their child
You should have waited till he was divorced if you didn't want these problems.They are divorcing and you are there in the middle of it.She sees her husband with another woman.Would you be upset.Put yourself in her shoes.He isn't divorced yet and already in the sack with another.Good man you picked to be with,but you are the one Right?Not her,and he will treat you much better than her.He should have the respect and get the divorce and then persue you and his relationship.She is pissin you off.You are sleeping with her husband and he is still her husband and you are sleeping with a married man.Where is your respect?You ain't no better then him.So if i was the wife i would be kickin your but.You are the ho,and should get some respect for yourself and others!!!!!!!!!!!!
Be kind to her and have compassion. Someday you may be in her shoes.
Best thing to do is stay out of it. So she doesn't use you against him in their divorce proceedings.
DONT they need to hash things out between them after the divorce tell her how you feel , you will make matters worse for him if you do it before they divorce my guy now of two years was dealing with a similar ordeal and i bit my lip and than after i told her how i felt about her right down to the bottom of the barrel. just try to keep the peace till it is hashed out . i know what your going threw and it defiantly SUCKS but in the end you will get to say your peace and be the better of the two of you. Best of luck
Why are you having to be rewpectful to her?


Cos she's saying he can't see his daughter if you're not? I know it's tedious but she has no right to stop access, if it take sit he'll have to take her to court to organise access that way, but as long as you're reasonable around her she's got no rights ' all to stop you being part of her daughters life if the childs father wants that.
just avoid her. dont be friendly, but start with her either.
in my opinion, you should stop seeing this man until the divorce is final, this can be used against him in court... and, he should stand up to the ex, he needs to stand up for you! basically, he should have no contact w/ this woman unless it's through his lawyer... unless he's picking up the child or taking the child home...