How do I deal with my boyfriends abandonment issues?

My boyfriend who is 34 yo was abandoned by his mother when he was 4. We have had a very long relationship and I love him very much. Now I'm older and I'm starting to realize that his abandonment is affecting our relationship a big deal. He was raised by his father only, and I know that usually mothers are the most nurturing and who provide compassion and sentiments to a child, he never had that, so feelings to him are not important, he can not understand when I'm hurt, he doesn't how his behavior hurts me. My big issues are the he has a lot of female friends, it bothers me because he talks to them and does a lot of texting with them. He hardly has any male friends, so it makes feel that because he didn't have a mother, he always wants to be around women, I fee like he feels safe, he wants women's attention, he needs to be liked by women, that's my thinking. Years ago he also wanted to have a 3 person relationship with me and another girl. I tell him how I feel about it and he thinks it's my problem, that I am insecure that's all. I believe any woman would have the same issues I have if the boyfriend would be talking to other women. He says they are only friends, but what can you possibly talk about or text all the time? He has other issues that I think are related to his mom leaving him, he has many addictions, to name some: video game addictions, porn addictions, shoe addictions, he is very extreme about everything. I want to understand him and help him but I don't know if I can or if I even should. He is very controlling, he gets mad and gets very mean with me when I bring up things that bother me (like the female friends). He says he is tired of me having issues all the time. He is very difficult to deal with. I don't don't know what to do. I even thought about leaving the relationship but I don't want to add to his abandonment issues even more, I have hope he can realize that he has a problem. I'm not an expert at this, but it seems to me like he does. Thank youHow do I deal with my boyfriends abandonment issues?
Abandonment issues...my eye!





He was raised by a man that forgot to teach him respect, honesty, sensitivity, empathy, self-control........and probably the difference between right and wrong.





Stop analyzing him or wanting to 'fix' him because you can't!





He's not boyfriend or husband material, move on to a man better suited for you.





The woman marrying this man will have a long difficult life filled with infidelity, abuse, addictions etc.How do I deal with my boyfriends abandonment issues?
And what does this have to do with Marriage %26amp; Divorce. Talk to you BF, we can't speak for him.
You can break up and move on...that's the beauty of dating...if you try someone on and they don't ';fit'; - you can move on!
He definitely has a problem and it is not your fault. He needs some major emotional counseling. I understand that you love him and don't want to add to his abandonment issues, but his problems are not your fault and he is responsible for how he handles a breakup with you, not you. Since he is so tired of you having ';issues all the time'; then it is time for you to move on. You don't need this hassle, and you have done all you can to help him. Think of you now. Good luck.
You have been putting up with a whole lotta bull and making excuses for his unacceptable behavior. He is NOT boyfriend material. You need to wake up and smell the coffee (er um I mean reality). I hope you find the courage to start thinking about yourself and your happiness and your future and stop worrying about someone who will never change - he's making you feel guilty for his rude, inconsiderate mean behavior. . .
at some point you need to stop worrying about him and his issues and worry about yourself and being happy.I have been here and left the relationship and it didnt hurt him at all,he moved on to someone else who puts up with all his ****
He is not going to change and you will have to put up with his faults.So the rest of your life you will live in misery as you are not the one who can help him.He will do just fine without you as he has many female friends that will keep him busy.In other words RUN GIRL and don't look back.Love is too wonderful to waste it on someone who does not give back or doesn't care.
sweety, any man that is willing to bring someone else into your bedroom does not care about you!!!! any man that talks to other women more than he talks to you, does not care about you!!!





wake up and go get someone who love you!!! and not just part of you!!!
Oh, poor guy! what kind of monther would leave their son?! Well, you have to decide if you love him enough to be able to deal with his issues for the rest of your life. He might get better over time but never will be the same to someone who is from a healthy family. I married one so I know! No matter what sad background he had, it doesn't give him the right to mistreat you. Tell him that! If he doesn't change, most likely he will not - sadly, you need to walk when you are still young and attractive!!