How to help my boyfriend dealing with his guilt for losing his father?

My boyfriend lost his father about two years ago. Though he is coping with it, he still feels very depressed about it.


His father mentioned couple times that he wanted to see Lakers game in the staple center, but since my boyfriend was busy working all the time, he never took him there.


He kept on blaming himself for that, and thought he is the worst son in the world.


How do I help him to deal with his guilt? I don't like to see him suffer and cry over this.How to help my boyfriend dealing with his guilt for losing his father?
your boyfriend had no idea that he was running out of time to do this. he was doing the best, the very best he could do with what he knew how to do at the time. he was doing what he was supposed to be doing as a young man, he was making his way and working.





tell your boyfriend he will have a chance at that laker game, someday when he has his own child, they can go to the laker game in his dads honor.





he must have really loved his dad, and that touches me. the love he and his dad had for each other will not die, it is there all the time, nothing to be depressed about, his dad lives in the good things this son does. i am sure his dad would be very proud of him, and, when your boyfriend has his own kid or kids, he can be a good dad to them, that honors his own dad.





why dont the two of you go online and buy a couple tickets to a laker game and go in honor of his dad. dont put it off, do it, and take a picture of dad, sounds corny, but, action will help move on to a point where the grieving is replaced with happiness for the love the dad did give the son, it is still his to pay forward to his own kids. that is something not to cry about, it is something to rejoice over, that his dad gave that love and sense of honor to him.How to help my boyfriend dealing with his guilt for losing his father?
Just tell him that no matter what happened in the past...games that were forgotten, phone calls that weren't returned, visits that were cancelled, whatever...his father still loved and adored him.





Also understand that he'll never get over it. My father passed away 13 years ago and there are days where I'll cry for hours over it. It's just something that never leaves you but eventually you get passed the hurt and your moments of sadness are far and few in between.
time is the best treatment for this. Remind him that he was a great son. Reminisce about the things they DID get to do. And also remind him that his fathers' memories will always live on. Maybe make a shadow box for him of him and his father....you know, the things they did do together, like fishing, or games...etc...