You are in a very difficult situation. Does he put up with her because she won't let him see the children otherwise? I wouldn't worry about it and let it get you depressed. I doubt he would ever go back to her because she is obviously crazy. In situations where you have to deal with...just ignore her the best you can and go about looking as happy as ever. She wants to get under your skin and cause you stress. The best way to get back at her is to have her believe that she isn't bothering you a bit...even if you have to go scream in a pillow afterwards!How to deal with boyfriend's ex-wife?
I dealt with this myself, but this was just a stalker girl who wasnt even an ex...! Can't imagine what you're dealing with.
Honestly, you need to decide if you can handle this forever. If you can, continue your relationship. If you can't (and I couldn't) then part ways amicably. He should tell her that if she's not calling him about the kids, he doesn't want to hear from her.
There's not much you can do. It's up to your boyfriend to put a stop to it. Get after him to take care of it.
Fight. OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHH fight.
that's all I can say.
the problem lies with your boyfriend!!! sorry but he is making it worse by even talking to her and arguing with her. he needs to keep some type of civil relationship with her because she is the mother of his children but that's it.. he needs to put his foot down and when she calls if it doesn't have anything to do with the children then he needs to let her know and hang up. don't answer and if he answers hang up as soon as he knows it has nothing to do with the kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if he doesn't still care about her then he doesn't and shouldn't want to talk to her let alone spend time arguing with her. if need be he needs to go to family court and maybe both of you should seriously put out a restraining order on her. this will be best for all of you especially the kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this will be very bad on them if he and yes ';he'; allows this to keep going on. maybe you need to put your foot down as well. you can be loving and supportive but don't take the excuses for him talking to her because of the kids. he might still have feelings. i hope not for your sake. trust me on this. he needs to let go. they shouldn't argue about anything its over. he needs to let family court and the law handle this. and if he or she has family they need to be the go between. if he needs to pick the kids up find someone else like grandma to pick them up instead. vi-ca verse. the less contact they have and you all have the better. it will be hard but it will work!!!!! good luck. god bless
ugh. one of my friends is going through this and it has been over two years. the ex always says i give up you can have him you won and then a few weeks later its like she gets bored or something because then she starts it up again. if you love your boyfriend and your willing to deal with it then more power to you, but get him to talk to her. when i was single this is the exact reason why i had a strict rule of NO MEN WITH CHILDREN. i couldn't deal with all that. try killing her with kindness
Well if you look at it logically, the arguments they have over the phone are normal, and not really your concern.
She seems to be the one with the problem, and you seem to upset her. She goes out of her way to make a scene and to try and upset you. Just don't let her do it. You will see that the more you refuse to react to her, the more she will get upset, and eventually she will stop trying.
You might not be able to stop the drama between the two of them, but you can foil her plans regarding you.
Sadly, when you chose the man you also accepted the x into your life. The best thing to do is ignore it and remember that he is with you...and that is irritating her to no end. She is doing this because she wants him and you have him. The second thing to do is ask him to tell her only to call if it involves the children and to limit her calls to a certain amount of time. If she won't adhere to it, start letting the machine get the calls and only call back if it is legitimate (children hurt, etc). It will be difficult but she will give up.
Listen, those are her issues. You should just focus on your boyfriend and your life together. She will only tear your relationship apart if you let her. Don't pay any attention to her and only communicate with her when necessary. You should have a talk with your boyfriend and express your concerns, but like I said don't worry about her and what she is doing. Misery and negativity love company, so just focus on your life. Good luck!
well i think you should try to ignore it as much as possible. i know how hard this is! My bf has a crazy ex also, at all extents she just wont stay away. But have confidence, she wants to make the 2 of you miserable and bring you down to her level. she would love to fight about you, with you, anything to feed her ammunition.
As much as all the thing she does, just pretend that they don't bother you and you are happy that the kids are doing fine.
the issues will never completely stop with her, but if you don't give her the ammo, she drama will continue to just make HER look bad
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