How to deal when your boyfriend just had a baby by his ex-girlfriend?

heres the deal my boyfriend and I hve been together for about 3 months and his baby's mother was pregnant at the time she broke up with him we got together everything was so good despite the drama that she caused all the time, he didnt have anything to do with her becuse all the lies she made up about him and myself he was just going to go over to her house once the baby is born well...the baby has been born and its been here for about a week, and i feel soo left out of the picture i understand he has a responsiblity to take care of but its weird when u go from being number 1 on his priorty to 2nd and he stays at his ex girlfriends house all the time now..he didnt even call me in the morning after he woke up he went straight to her house i feel so bad and i'm about ready to give him up but i dont want to because i love him. i feel like he might forget about me complety and they may get back together because all the time he spends over there....please give me some advicee!!How to deal when your boyfriend just had a baby by his ex-girlfriend?
You have to understand that he is a parent now. yes, he might be going over to his ex's house now, but I thinkn it is just to help take care of his new born child. Dont jump to conclusions about what he is doing over there. I personally think he is over there doing his duty as a father. talk to him about what youre thinkning, he'll listen.How to deal when your boyfriend just had a baby by his ex-girlfriend?
My sister had the same issue. You are just going to have to be there for him

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Set some limits and if he cant handle that let go of him no matter what!
You could offer to let him bring the baby your place. but it really sounds like you are just his women, while she was having her fits.


Therefore stop calling him, see what happens.
Forget him. They have too much in common for you to be a consideration for him. You may think you love him. But that 'love' will wear very thin after time. Are you really ready to waste your life on someone who chooses to be with another?


Get out and ENJOY!!!
Well he has a child now so you have to respect that. Eventhough it may hurt you to know that he is spending his time with his child, it does not nessecarily mean that he is still sleeping with his ex-girlfriend. Now, if you find out that he is still sleeping with his ex-girlfriend, then you need to leave him alone and move on. You only have 3 months together, it won't hurt that much.
Oh Honey, this is a nasty situation.





His first priority should be his child, of course. But, he is doesn't even seem to be making you No. 2.





Why does he need to stay at his ex's house? Can't he take care of the baby in his own home when it's his turn?





You have to face the reality that playing ';happy family'; may well mean he is on his way back to being with his ex and you will be out in the cold. You really need to talk to him about this is in a calm manner. Don't start accusing him of anything or badmouth his child's mother. Just tell him you are feeling insecure and see how he deals with that. If he gets defensive, then he's likely already lost to you. If he is willing to consider your feelings and find a common ground so you can be included in his life once more and in the baby's life, then it's worth working out.





Good luck. You will need it.
I feel your pain however I am going to be realistic. I had a family member whom lived w/ her man and everything was fantastic. Suddenly he finds out that his ex was pregnant and once the baby was born all he could do was fall in love with the baby which is not a bad thing at all but he decided one day to the next to leave my cousin and marry this girl due to the fact he had his own child. Now seriously if this happens he never loved you and it wasnt for you their is nothing wrong with you . However we cannot go into negative conclusions, just realize that this is part of his world now and it will conflict a little w/you usual time. Just as having children will change your life forever.





Be a support system w/your mate and keep communicating. Even if the ex calls to talk to him be polite and always positive. Your mate is just going through a new experience and needs time but he still loves you and just keep communicating.





If you see weird changes after a month, then have a serious heart to heart and let him know you understand how he feels w/his baby and your supportive however, spending the night their and ignoring you is not tolerated.
Step back and let him have the opportunity to make a family with the mother of his child and his new baby. You really do not want to be part of this.





Although you love this man this second, when a short amount of time passes, you will love the next man even more. It is strange about love. It is really intense and then it dissolves. Let this one go and do some good deeds this year at Christmas.
This is what happens when you have a boyfriend with a baby on the way. You need to get out now before you spend any more time and energy in this relationship. Your boyfriend's baby is young and need both his parents. When a man has a baby this young, the parents need to try and work things out and they can if they really want to. You're going to always be second for at least the next 18 years. You might be in love with this man, but he's in no position to have that luxury right now. He can't afford child support payments and a girlfriend. It may hurt not having him in your life now, but that's nothing compared to all the drama, name calling, rejection, insults, and hurt that'll come your way if you try to continue seeing this man. The best thing you can do for yourself, is to get this man completely out of your life and move on.