Just try to be as loving, caring, and patient as possible
You have already raised a well-mannered, polite child I guess try to apply those parenting skills with this kid, but not to the point where she thinks you're trying to take mom's place.
Try to have fun with her and play games at Chuck E. Cheese; there's only SO much you as an individual can do. You're boyfriend will see that you are trying and he will really appreciate that. Maybe spending time with your daughter will influence his daughter?How do u deal with boyfriends 5 year old daughter who is TOO GROWN ?
you poor thing...cant even say anything mean to her or she'll run and tell mummy... The only thing i can think of if nothin else will work is whenever your child is good you buy her stuff or put a gold star on her chart that u could make up, his child does have to be in on it just has to know its there n ur child is getting the attention for being good...she will get jealous as kids do and you should notice some better behaviour...also dont react to anything she says when its bad then she knows she is getting to u ignore her half the time and pretend she isnt there only when shes good get ur husband to do the same if he can.. believe me jealous will eat away at her.
i know how you feel, my niece used to be the same. she's more mature now though, thank god. you just have to set your daughter as an example. tell your daughter if any fighting or anything goes on whilst your not with them, then she should tell you. say little things like 'remember your manners'. and distract her by asking questions like.. 'so, what's your favorite animal?' or something whenever she misbehaves. just treat her kindly and smile so she knows you're nice and want to be 'friends'. my best friends sister is like this and i find it annoying and embarrassing. but i just laugh it off and pretend it doesn't bother me. even though i'm screaming on the inside. don't worry. i hope i helped and everything works out.
You want to introduce a child who fights, is disrespectful and undisciplined to your child?! You actually think that this 5 yr old who bullies adults will have no effect on your child?! You want a relationship with a guy who is run over by a 5 yr old and her ghetto mother?! You actually think before even meeting this 5 yr old that you are going to teach her manners and her ghetto mother is gonna take it lying down?!
You've got one shot at raising your child and instead of being concerned about the effect this potentially drama ridden relationship with the spoiled child and her mother is going to have on your child, you are worried about how to change someone else's child so things will work out for you and your boyfriend?! I think you should rethink the situation for the sake of your child.
Well, if she disrespects you in any way I would just tell your boyfriend that he needs to get her in control or that you will. But don't, by any means, put your hands on her if you don't have permission to. I know what you mean when you said you don't wanna break up with him just because of his daughter but if the child will continually cause problems and her daddy can't keep her under control, then you shouldn't waste your time...unless you don't mind putting up with it continuously. Good luck!
I think you should first talk to him on how do he handle his child's behavior and ask him how would he feel with you coming in to love his child and help her understand how to be well behaved because some people don't like for another person to come and try to help raise their child. But see how that works first
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