How to deal with boyfriend in Army?

So me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years. We are both attending college and we are both 20. My boyfriend will be going into the army after college, which will be in 2 years. So my question is, how do you deal with a loved one being in the army? If you lived on base with them how was that? Thanks!How to deal with boyfriend in Army?
The Army doesn't recognize boyfriends or girlfriends as far as benefits. In order to qualify for base housing you must be married. If you would rather just shack up you will have to rent off base housing.How to deal with boyfriend in Army?
Like the other guy said, you have to be married to live together on base. If you live together off base they will pay him less since your married. As far as life in the military goes, you need tobe married when he goes in, simply because if he's hurt or worse, you will have no rights whatso ever. If he were in need of surgery they would call his parents instead of asking you. Things like that. I know that's a big step, but be married when he goes, if not you won't be considered part of the military family and miss out on a lot.
You still have 2 years left till he in the Army. A lot can change between here and now.......worry about it when it is closer





Make sure you are positive about this before you two marry. Married to a Soldier is a hard, lonely life and be prepared for it. But like I said, you have 2 years to figure all this out.





Good Luck
2 years is 10% of your life away


wait and see


don't spend a lot of energy on it for the next 18-20 months
Alright first off, DON'T get married just because he's going in the Army. Bad, bad advice and I have seen what happenes when that takes place.


Obviously you know that in order to live with him on base, you need to be married. It's a no brainer, HOWEVER, you and your boyfriend can live off post all day long, with all expenses out of pocket. Depending on where the post is located, depends on how plausable it is. Here in Oklahoma, it happens all the time. Houses and apartments are affordable, and you could always get a job to assist. I mean, you're in college right? Probably so you can one day get a job?


As far as dealing with someone being in the Army . . . it's tough, hard, scary . . . and rewarding all at the same time. Nothing is worse than a 12 or 15 month deployment until that 30 minute ceremony at the end when you know its really over. When the guest speaker, usually the Battalion Commander or some One Star General, says ';Dismissed.'; Makes it all worth it.


What also makes it worth it, and you can ask my wife, is when you are at a resturaunt (in uniform) and someone stops at your table and thanks you for your service. (Once I even had an elderly couple pay for my families dinner.)


Don't get married to him until he's in the Army and you guys get a good chance to see what it is like. The Army doesn't ';officially'; recognize girlfriends or fiance's, but they do include them in FRG meetings and E-Mails, and they are always welcome at family functions. In fact, my Rear Detatchment commander testified against me for a girlfriend of another soldier in a lawsuit about a house. (Hint: Don't help anyone out. If someones credit is bad, don't do them a favor and rent them your property, because in the end, when she finds a house better she wants and decides to get the lease broken, they will sue you for dumb things, such as rocks in the yard and a Cable TV wire, which was installed by Lawton Cable vision, that ran through the fence from the box in the alley to the house. I know, I know.)


Anyway, I am assuming that you will eventually get married, and hopefully at that time you have a good understanding of the Army because its not for everyone. The only thing harder than being a soldier is being a spouse and I DARE anyone to disagree. I'd rather be in Iraq, where my food is prepared for me and all I have to worry about it the mission, versus being at home with two small children (who still need to live, eat, go to school, attend practice for whatever sport they are currently in), balance the checkbook, keep track of both vehicles, avoid the news (even though my wife said that is impossible to do) and make sure that when your soldier comes home, he feels welcome and gets blended back in.


So, That's about what its like. You will never have another job like it, and there are things that happen that will amaze you, shock you, surprise you, sacre you, and totally make you wonder exactly who is protecting this country.





Best of luck to you and your boyfriend.

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