Guys, wondering how women are supposed to deal with boyfriends who do not clean up after themselves?

I have children and they have to clean up after they eat, not leave their toys out, and if they have a drink in the living room they have to take care of it. My ex-boyfriend always left his things all over, and when I would ask him to take care of things he would say he would, then forget. How do I deal with this in the future without becoming a nag?Guys, wondering how women are supposed to deal with boyfriends who do not clean up after themselves?
Well that's why he is your ex. There's no reason for guys to act like this, it is PURE laziness and bad parenting. I have lived this.





Was engaged and had been w/my gf since high school (about 7 years). We lived together for 3 years and she was constantly on my case about cleaning up and putting things away, always asking why my mom never taught me how to grow-up and clean up after myself. I told her I'd help but then forgot until the next day and she had everything done already. I figured she'd get over it. She didn't, and she wound up leaving me. No joke. To this day I fully regret that I didn't just pick up after myself and now live alone with a spotless house and no more fiancee. I changed my ways to be a neat freak because more girls would like a neat freak than a messy person.





If people are neat freaks, they can't live with messy lazy people for long- that's the bottom line.





My ex-fiancee is now happily married to a guy now is be way more successful than me. He also dresses really well so he's probably extremely neat. Probably won't ever find a girl like her again, all because I was too ignorant to see the error of my ways.Guys, wondering how women are supposed to deal with boyfriends who do not clean up after themselves?
Learn to not be obsessive about cleaning things up. My gf does that all the time, but doesn't even give me time to clean up. When I say I will get it, I will get it. Maybe today, maybe tomorrow. The problem is women don't have patience and it drives them crazy to know something is out of order, where as a guy really doesn't care. So she will pick something up, get annoyed even after I said I will get it. Either relax a little bit, or give him some sort of incentive to clean up right away, like give the guy a six pack or something. Nobody wants to get nagged after a days work.
Don't marry them or you will spend the rest of your time with them cleaning up after them. An adult is too old to teach them how to do simple ';pick up behind yourself';. If they didn't learn it at home, you won'd be able to teach it. You will actually become sick from holding in the resentment of having to pick up behind a grown person. Obviously your nagging is not going to do much good or that would have already worked.