How to deal with boyfriends past relationship in a future relationship?

How to deal with boyfriends past relationship in a future relationship?


My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 yrs. He has kids with another woman from a past relationship. Anyway the Mother and his kids are always calling. At first it really bothered me, then he would try to hide and talk to them while at my house on his cell phone. I told him its O.K. and I didn't want him to hide anything from me. But now I am pregnant by him and when they call I get really upset. He always watch them whenever she asks, its like the mother does this on purpose. Its been to long and I don't know how to deal with it anymore. They call him all the time. I feel he should at least respect me when he is with me and at least not answer or have them to call him at a certain time. But he will not do that. I feel he don't care. Any advice.How to deal with boyfriends past relationship in a future relationship?
Is this question a joke?





You are upset that your soon-to-be baby daddy answers every phone call from his children?





How would you feel if he left you, had children with another women, and ignored the child(ren) you had together?





Respect is not a one-way street. You knew he had children with another women when you became involved with him. I apologize for sounding a little harsh, but it's extremely frustrating when immature 'adults' have kids. You have a lot of growing up to do. My thoughts are with your unborn child.How to deal with boyfriends past relationship in a future relationship?
Would you want him to ignore your child? Those are his children, and you dare not try to come between that, it will end your relationship with him. On the other hand, there is no need in him having contact with the ex, other than to discuss an issue with one of his kids. That is something that he needs to work on. The only real advice I can give you on this is for you to back off, let him handle the ex, and give him whatever time he wants with his children.
LOL. His kids, his rules. What if they call and one of his kids is in the hospital and he doesn't answer? then what? you're very selfish. It's too bad you're pregnant because you don't seem like mother material.
Grow up.


He SHOULD watch them when she can't, he is their father.


Don't ever ask a parent to stop being with their kids because you will lose.
ehhh why do you want him to be a bad dad ? when you are having his baby, don't act surprised that he has baggage, eveil step-mum alert!
buyer beware
What kind of father ignores his children? Is that the kind of father you want for your child? Those kids were there way before you were, and if you are suggesting that somehow that makes you more important, you are wrong. He should be available to them, he's their dad and its not their fault he and their mother couldn't make the relationship work. He should take them whenever he has the opportunity, regardless of your schedule, he's their dad, not just your boyfriend. Jealousy is an ugly character trait and its not worthy of someone who is about to be someones mother.